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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FORGIVENESS

Bible: Matthew 6:14-15 (NLT)

Bottom Line: We should forgive others because God has forgiven us.

SUPPLIES

• 50 Sheets of copy paper—Draw a large heart in the middle of each sheet of paper
• 2 Buckets of water
• 20 Foam dishwashing sponges cut into halves 

GAME PREP

This is an outdoor water game and you will need a fairly large playing space. 

Divide students into two teams of equal size.

Then, instruct each team to split into two equal-sized groups.

Have each team choose a captain.

Give each team a bucket of water containing 20 foam sponge halves.

Also, give each team captain 25 sheets of copy paper.

HOW TO PLAY THE GAME

Say: Today, you are going to do your best to break each other’s hearts.

Now, I know that’s not something we typically encourage, but it’s how you will win our game today. 

I need one group from each team to stand at each end of our game space.

Have one group from each team stand with the buckets of sponges at one end of the space.

Each of these groups will form a single file line. 

Have the other group stand at the other end of the space with the team captain and the pieces of paper with hearts drawn on them.

All of the those with the team captain will form a line by standing side-by-side.

The team captain will give each of those people a piece of paper to hold in front of them.

When I say, “Go,” one person from each team will throw 10 sponges, one at a time, at the pieces of paper being held by your teammates at the other end. 

Your goal is to soak up as much water as you can and hit the pieces of paper so that they eventually rip because of the water. 

You cannot just rip your piece of paper; it has to break because of the water.

After you take your turn and throw your sponges, the next person on your team will take their turn while you are picking up the sponges and returning them to your bucket.

If your piece of paper rips, you will trade places with the person that threw the sponge at your paper—even if they didn’t get to finish throwing all of their sponges on their turn—and you will pick up the sponges they had thrown.

The team captain will be responsible for giving their teammates a new piece of paper when a piece rips.

The first team to break 10 of their hearts (or however many you choose) wins! 

TEACH

Say: You might not want to, but you really should forgive each other for being so brutal in our game. 

It was all in good fun! 

Here, however, is an example of someone who was not quite so willing to move on from the pain someone caused in her life.

When Leslie Ray 'Popeye' Charping passed away, his daughter submitted an obituary in the local newspaper that expressed her feelings about her father—and she held nothing back.

Here’s what she wrote:

 "At a young age, Leslie quickly became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing, and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to serve in the Navy, but not so much in a brave & patriotic way, but more so as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges.

Leslie's hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to heaven for the beloved family pets, and fishing, which he was less skilled with than the previously mentioned. Leslie's life served no other obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society or serve his community and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides quick-witted sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days.

With Leslie's passing, he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving husband, father, and good friend.

Leslie's passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.”

Leslie’s daughter had a lot to say, but what she didn’t say spoke the loudest—she did not forgive her father for the pain he had caused her, and she wanted to make sure no one else did either.

Forgiveness is often difficult to choose, especially when you have to overcome feelings of disappointment, resentment, or the desire for revenge. 

Let’s read what Jesus told His followers and the crowd that was gathered around Him, as part of what we call, “The Sermon on the Mount.”

Read Matthew 6:14-15.

“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Once our eyes have been opened to how much God has forgiven us, we no longer have the option to allow bitterness and un-forgiveness to be part of our lives.

If we choose not to forgive someone, we are saying they are less deserving of forgiveness than we are.

Ask: Why is it more difficult to forgive some things more than others? Or some people?

Allow a few responses from students. Share a time when it was difficult to forgive someone in your own life.

Ask: Have you witnessed the long-time results of unforgiveness in your life, or in the lives of those you love? 

Allow a few responses from students.

Forgiveness is pretty important in the life of a believer because without it, we cannot have a restored relationship with God.

Unforgiveness will separate us from God.

Here are a couple of reasons why those who desire a relationship with God should forgive others and themselves.

1. When you are focused on the hurt and pain of the past, you can’t move into a future that is free of those things. 

It’s like carrying a heavy weight around your neck that you can’t remove on your own.

God will forgive us of the things that separate us from Him if we simply ask, allowing us to move forward in life with a clean slate and the heaviness removed.

When you forgive others for the things they have done to cause you pain, you are allowing them to experience that same gift in their own lives.

2. Unforgiveness isn’t healthy.

Bitterness can affect your body.

It can actually make you sick, causing ulcers, depression, anxiety, heart problems, and more.

Maybe it’s because our bodies were not created to live with those feelings; it is not part of God’s plan for us.

Unforgiveness will also affect the healthy relationships in our lives.

Feelings of bitterness and resentment can be difficult to turn off and on, so it’s not unimaginable that those who love you would get the brunt of your harsh feelings towards others.

3. If we don’t forgive others, God won’t forgive us. 

It’s cut and dry, “But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

God loves us so much and He knows we can’t serve Him with a forgiven heart that is holding unforgiveness against someone else. 

Unforgiveness clouds our vision from seeing a picture of God’s love because it’s actually the opposite of who God is.

Today, you can begin to take steps towards healing in even the most difficult relationships of your life.

You might not be able to work on forgiving someone on your own—you might need someone to walk through it with you.

Share your feelings with a pastor, parent, or a godly friend.

And then, ask God to help you show to others the same forgiveness you have received from Him.

YOUTH GROUP GAME ON GOD'S GUIDANCE

Written by Mike Sheley

Bible: Proverbs 16:9; Psalm 119:105

Bottom Line: God guides us in our everyday life, one step at a time, as we follow Him.

SUPPLIES

• Three “Connect 4” Game Sets
• Three extra sets of checkers that are a different color from the two colors in the Connect 4 sets
  • Most checkers come in black and red
  • Some new game sets for Connect 4 include a yellow set
  • If you need a different color for the third set, you can search Amazon, collect old checkers, or purchase some new ones and use paint to make them whatever color you want
• One, 6 or 8-foot Table
• Six Chairs
• Background Music
• For the lesson portion, you will need pre-printed copies of Proverbs 16:9 and Psalm 119:105.

GAME PREP

Set up a 6 or 8-foot table with three “Connect 4” stands sitting side-by-side.

On each long side of the table, place three chairs - each facing one of the stands.

HOW TO PLAY THE GAME

Divide your group into three teams and have them line-up in three single-file lines.

Let each group know which color checker represents their team.

For this game, the first two people in each line will have a seat at the table.

They cannot sit side-by-side or across from someone on the same team.

The purpose of the game is to connect as many checkers as they can, in a row horizontally, vertically, or diagonally of their color.

Defensively, their goal is to block as many connections from the other two teams as possible.

Players can only use checkers of the color assigned to their team.

When the music starts, they will take turns putting in one checker at a time.

You can only play one checker at a time.

You have to wait for your opponent to drop in a checker before you can add another one.

This all sounds pretty familiar, but, of course, we are spicing things up a bit.

When the music stops, everyone must move one seat to the right.

If you are in the farthest seat on the right, you will go to the end of your team’s line and a new person from your team will take the empty seat on the far left.

When the music begins, play resumes.

At the end of the game, the team that has the most connections of four or more checkers of their color, in a row, will win.

If there is a tie, the one with the longest connection(s) in the tie will be the champion.

Say: Ready? Go!

Have someone play upbeat music in the background.

Randomly stop the music at intervals of 10-30 seconds.

At the end of the game, congratulate your champion!

Remember to look at all three boards.

Whichever color has the most connections of four or more in a row will be your winner.

If there is a tie, then see which one has the longest connection in a row.

TEACH

Say: Many of you have probably played Connect 4 before.

But, I doubt any of you have played it like that!

The easiest round of that game was when you were the first one to play and you could drop your checker anywhere.

A new beginning feels good - the beginning of the year, and the beginning of a new school year are always filled with hope because you have a fresh start.

But, today, we're going to take this opportunity to check-in and see if the steps you are taking in your everyday life lead you towards God’s best for your life.

Hand out the pre-printed copies of Proverbs 16:9 and Psalm 119:105 to the students and ask for a volunteer to read each of the verses when they are to be read during the lesson.

Read Proverbs 16:9.

If I was to summarize this verse I would say, "We can make all the plans we want, but God shows us each step along the way."

So, that makes me wonder: If I want to follow God’s lead in my life, how do I know which steps he wants me to take?

Allow a few responses from students.

Let's think about the game for a minute.

It would have been awesome if before the game started, I had given you a picture  of how the completed stand full of checkers was going to look and you could just drop in your checkers where they needed to go.

And what if I had even shown you where to drop the checkers for each individual round... that would have been more like me helping you one step at a time.

Check out this next verse where we find out exactly how God does this for us.

Have a student read the verse.

Read Psalm 119:105.

The author of this Psalm, or song, in the Bible says that “God’s Word,” or the Bible, guides us.

In this passage, the “lamp” or “light,” is like a modern-day flashlight.

He emphasizes this by saying the same thing a little differently – It’s a “lamp to guide my feet” and it’s a “light for my path.”

Some of us wish God gave us a big spotlight.

Maybe you've started thinking about what you will do someday after you graduate high school.

It would be amazing if God gave us specifics about our future - like telling us what career we should choose, who we should marry, where we should live, etc.

But, here's what God does... He shows you how to live your everyday life, one day at a time.

And as you follow Him every step of the way, He leads you.

Following God’s guidance and making wise choices in our everyday lives is like making connections in the game we played - getting our checkers lined up in a row.

How do you get a long streak of connecting what God wants you to do multiple days in a row?

You spend time in the Bible so that you will be able to see how God is guiding you, one step at a time.

So, remember - God shows us in the Bible how to live our lives one day at a time so that no matter what our big plans are, we’ll live in such a way that we honor God and help others get to know Him.

Let’s commit to spending more time reading the Bible so we can live more days the way God wants us to.

Close in prayer.

Written by Mike Sheley. Mike is the Middle School Pastor at Mount Pleasant Christian Church in Greenwood, Indiana, where he oversees their ministries for 5th-8th graders.  He’s been in full-time youth ministry over 15 years with most of that time focused on preteens and junior highers.