YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DISCIPLINE
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DISCIPLINE
Bible: Matthew 6:34; Hebrews 5:8
Bottom Line: Discipline helps us grow in our relationship with God and others.
SUPPLIES
- Chairs (one per student)
- Slips of paper
- Bucket
- Marker
GAME PREP
Arrange chairs in a large circle, except for one chair that will be placed in the middle of the circle.
On each slip of paper, use a marker to write one of the following phrases:
- Name starts with “M”
- Birthday in June
- Has blue eyes
- Wearing a black shirt
- 15 years old
- Is a girl
- Has a sibling in this group
- Goes to _______ School (you fill it in)
- Brought their Bible
- Owns a pet cat
- Has flown in a plane
- Can speak two languages
- Made their bed today
- Is a boy
- Wearing socks
Next, fold each slip of paper in half, put the paper in the bucket, and put the bucket beside the chair in the middle.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Ask: How many of you have played the game, Musical Chairs?
This game is very similar, except there is no music and we aren’t walking around the chairs.
Okay. It's entirely different, except we are using chairs.
I will choose one person to sit in the chair in the middle.
They will choose a slip of paper out of the bucket and read what is written out loud.
It will say something like, “Has brown hair.”
If that phrase applies to you, then you will stand up and switch places with someone else who stood up.
The goal is for the person in the middle to take one of your seats before everyone else has found a different chair.
If you are left without a chair, you have to take a chair in the middle, pick a piece of paper from the bucket, and read it out loud.
The winners of the game are the people who never have to sit in a chair in the middle.
You can award a prize if you want to, but they will have so much fun playing the game, they probably won’t be expecting a prize.
TEACH
Some of you really had to move around a lot in that game!
As players, you had no control over what would be called out; next, you just had to do what you were told to do.
Raise your hand if you like being told what to do.
Ask: How many of you enjoy being disciplined by your parents or teachers? Tell me what you think “being disciplined” means?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share a personal story of a time when you were punished as a child for doing something you should not have done.
None of us enjoy punishment for our actions.
Some of you may have even been punished unfairly when you didn’t deserve it.
But when the Bible talks about God's discipline, it's always fair and is meant to help us grow in our relationship with God and into a better person.
Let’s see what the Bible has to say about discipline.
Read Matthew 6:34.
People who accept discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray.
Raise your hand if you have ever ridden a horse.
Have you ever ridden a horse wearing a bridle or a bit in its mouth?
A bridle helps direct a horse,
It includes both the headstall that holds a bit that goes in the mouth of a horse, and the reins that are attached to the bit.
Would you ever jump on a wild horse that isn’t wearing a bridle and has never been ridden before?
That would be a little insane—you would have no control over the horse’s actions and who knows what could happen.
The purpose of a rein is to control the direction the horse is going, and a bit puts enough pressure on the tongue so the horse will respond to what the rider is wanting them to do.
They are both essential when it comes to successfully riding a horse, and without them, it's more dangerous and unpredictable.
Ask: What are the “bits and reins” in your life that help control your actions? Why are they important?
Allow a few responses from students.
There will be times that you receive discipline from parents, and those in authority, and others when God is trying to teach you something.
Ask: How does being disciplined help you grow as a person and in your relationship with God? Is it necessary?
Allow a few responses from students.
If you've ever interacted with a toddler, you know discipline is necessary—they do whatever they want!
They destroy things, make messes, bite people, and if never told that it’s wrong, they will continue in their destructive behavior.
We know that’s true, because they grow into adults who don’t clean up after themselves or take care of what they own.
Sometimes, people are left to teach themselves right and wrong because they don’t have godly influences in their lives.
But if you ask Him, God will show you the right things to do, and when He does, don’t fight it.
God’s discipline comes in the form of letting us suffer the consequences of our bad choices, but He’s with us through it all.
God also disciplines us when He wants to teach us something because He loves us.
Jesus was disciplined, and He never sinned, so it's not always a result of something we have done.
Hebrews 5:8 says, “[Jesus] learned obedience through what he suffered.”
We learn obedience when we do what God wants us to do, even though we’re experiencing a difficult time.
He will allow us to suffer to make us closer to Him.
Ask: Do you think you can learn to trust God if you are never put in situations that test your faith?
Do you think it’s fair for God to allow suffering to draw us closer to Him? Why or why not?
Allow a few responses from students.
There have been times that your parents have let you suffer a little because they loved you and knew that’s how you would learn.
How many times have they reminded you to do your homework and you still don't do it?
So, they stop reminding you so that you will learn from your own choices.
Maybe you want to date someone who is not right for you, and they let you learn that on your own instead of telling you not to date them.
As a teenager, if you can learn the value of discipline and living a disciplined life, then you will save yourself some heartache and pain as you grow older.
It takes some people an entire lifetime to learn that there are consequences to their actions.
You can make the choice today to allow the people God has placed in your life to discipline you and teach you how to live for God.
And when God disciplines you, know that He loves you and is helping you become the person He wants you to be—the best version of you.
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON WORRY
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON WORRY
Bible: Matthew 6:34
Bottom Line: Instead of worrying about tomorrow, trust God today.
SUPPLIES
- Cell phone
- Potato
- Music playlist
GAME PREP
Have your entire group form a circle and sit down.
As the leader, allow the group to use your cell phone for the game—make sure you have a good case and screen protector on the phone that is used.
Give both the potato and the cell phone to one person in the group.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Now that we have everything we need, let’s talk about how to play the game.
We will call this game, “Cell Phone Selfie Hot Potato.”
Now, you had probably played hot potato when you were a child, so you know how to do that part of the game.
While the music is being played, we’re going to pass a potato around the circle.
But, there's a twist…because that would be too easy and you're too old just to play a game of hot potato.
At the same time the potato is going around our circle, we will also pass a cell phone from person to person.
When the game starts, the person holding the cell phone and the potato will pass the cell phone to their left and the potato to the person on their right.
At the beginning of each round, the person holding the phone will set the 10-second timer on the camera.
Make sure the camera is set in selfie mode so you can see your face on the screen.
You will pass the phone from person to person with your arms extended away from you, like you’re taking a selfie.
If the timer goes off and you’re holding the phone, remember to smile, because you’re going to see that picture again in the future.
But, unfortunately, if you’re holding the phone when the timer goes off, you’re also out of the game.
If you’re just holding the potato when the timer goes off, nothing happens.
Then, start the next round.
The potato and cell phone will continue to be passed around the circle, beginning with the last person that was holding each item.
There’s another twist.
If you happen to be holding the potato AND the cell phone when it takes the picture, then you are saved by the potato, and you can stay in the game.
Option: You can do a double elimination where people are out if they are holding the potato or the cell phone for each round.
For extra fun, upload all of the funny photos that are taken to your youth group’s social media page—it could be hilarious.
TEACH
Say: Who would have thought you could have so much fun with a potato and a cell phone?
Some of you looked a little panicked when the phone was passed to you or even when you thought one of your friends would be out.
It’s okay to feel panicked in a game, but if you’ve ever felt that way in real life, it’s not so fun.
Panic and worry are often a part of our everyday lives.
In fact, a recent study found that 38 percent of us struggle with worry every single day.
Ask: What are some common things we worry about? What do you worry about?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share what you worried about when you were the age of the students.
We could write a very, very, long list about what people worry about because it’s different for each person.
Some of you might struggle with your grades in school and worry if you will even pass your classes.
Our families can provide a source of worry—maybe your parents don’t get along, or a relative is sick, and you're nervous about what could happen.
Many of us have had the experience of going to bed, and suddenly our minds are racing with worst case scenarios.
If you’ve had any of those experiences, then you might be struggling with worry.
There's an anxiety disorder called the "what-if disease."
That’s when you really let your mind think about all of those things that could happen.
There was a study conducted where they had people write down everything they were worried about for two weeks, and asked them to try and guess what might happen with the things they were worried about.
Here’s what they found: Instead of the things the people worried about being bad or negative, 85% of the things they worried about were positive!
The things they worried about not only didn’t happen, but in the end, they turned out okay. (According to the book, The Worry Cure by Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D.)
So, let’s take a look at what the Bible has to say about how we should handle worry.
Read Matthew 6:34.
“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
This Bible verse is part of the “Sermon on the Mount.”
At this point in Jesus’ ministry, crowds gathered wherever He went.
One day, when Jesus saw the people coming, He went up to a mountainside, sat down, and started talking.
Right before the verse we just read, Jesus talks about having a healthy view of money (don’t love it), he talks about our possessions (realize that God has given us everything), and that we should store up treasures in Heaven (the things we do for the glory of God).
Ask: Do you think there’s a connection between the things I just read and the verse we read earlier about worry?
Allow a few responses from students.
Worry can stem from putting our eyes on other things (such as money, the stuff we have, our problems, etc.) instead of focusing on God.
God wants us to focus on Him.
While Jesus was on earth, He had plenty of things He could have worried about: people didn’t like Him, they called Him names and talked about Him, and eventually killed Him.
Jesus never lost focus of His mission or took His eyes off of God, His Father—but that wasn’t easy.
Jesus was still human, so when He says, “Today’s trouble is enough for today,” He knew what He was talking about because He had trouble in His life.
So, here are three things you can do when you start to worry:
- Think about something else.
When you find yourself thinking about the same things over and over, find something else to dwell on.
You can pray or write down prayers to God.
Make a list of the things that are bothering you and then ask God to help you put your eyes on Him and not the things you have written down.
As long as you dwell on the things you’re worried about, you will continue to worry.
- Read the Bible.
Of course, you should read your Bible, but there are several reasons why it will help you when you are filled with worry.
Although the people that are mentioned in the Bible lived a long time ago, you might be surprised to know that they struggled with the same areas you do, just a little differently.
The Bible is relevant, and because we believe it's the Word of God, it still speaks to us today.
Find a scripture passage you can study that will remind you of God’s faithfulness and let it soak into your heart and mind.
- Talk about what you worry about.
Worry can eat you up inside if you let it.
Talk to a friend, parent, sibling, or pastor and ask them to pray for you.
We were never meant to live our lives by ourselves.
You might find they have worried about similar situations and God has helped them in their situations.
Today, I want you to remember that worrying is a choice.
A better choice to make would be to focus on God and learn to depend on Him.
So, instead of worrying about tomorrow, trust God today.
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BETRAYAL
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BETRAYAL
Bible: Psalm 41:9-10; Matthew 26:16, 20
Bottom Line: When you feel betrayed, choose to take your hurt to God, instead of getting revenge.
SUPPLIES
- Large bag of M & M’s—enough for each student to have 2 pieces of candy
- Small bag of M & M’s—to give as a prize
GAME PREP
Students will play this game individually.
Give each student two M & M’s.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Each of you have been given two M & M’s—don’t eat them, and you won’t want to by the time we have finished this game!
Go ahead and put your M & M’s inside of your hands and make a fist.
You can put one in each hand, or both in one hand—it’s totally up to you.
When I say, “Go,” you will walk around this room, holding your hands in front of you.
You will walk up to someone, decide which hand you think they are holding an M & M in, and say, “Show me your right hand” or “Show me your left hand.”
You only get to ask them to show you one hand.
If that hand is holding an M & M, then they have to give it to you, and they don’t get to challenge you back.
If it is not, then you don’t get anything and that person can challenge you by saying “Show me your ____ hand.”
If you run out of M & M’s, then you’re out of the game.
It will become more challenging with the more M & M’s you get!
The goal is to be the person at the end of the game who has the most M & M’s.
Hopefully, the candy will melt in their hands, making for a fun twist!
Award the bag of M & M’s to the person with the most at the end of the game.
TEACH
Say: Some of you were really good at convincing other people which hand you did or didn’t have your M & M’s in!
I’m sure it’s not because any of you have practiced your skills of betrayal.
Ask: What would you consider to be the ultimate betrayal?
For some people, an example would be if your best friend cheered for your favorite football team’s rival; or, if you broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and one of your friends started dating them.
So, tell me, what does a betrayal feel like to you?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share a story of your own, but keep it light-hearted because this is a pretty heavy subject.
Read Psalm 41:9.
“Even my best friend, the one I trusted completely, the one who shared my food, has turned against me."
This is from a Psalm, a sacred song or poem, written by King David.
In the Book of Psalms, we read stories about David’s greatest triumphs and his personal times of weakness.
David just lays his heart and emotions out there for all of humanity to see—times of great joy, sadness (even depression), love, trust in God, and loss of faith in what God can do.
David experienced it all and shared it with all of us!
So, in this verse, we read that David’s best friend, someone that he has shared his life with, has turned against him, and he’s hurting.
In a moment of complete honesty, in verse 10, David asks God to “Make me well again, so I can pay them back!”
Wow! Most of us have probably felt like that at one time or another, but maybe we haven’t said it out loud.
And I think most of us realize that’s not a plan that God could agree with.
After all, if anyone experienced betrayal and had the opportunity to get revenge, it was Jesus.
He was betrayed by one of His disciples—someone He spent an enormous amount of time with during His final years on earth.
After traveling with Jesus, watching Him perform miracles, and hearing it proclaimed that He was the Messiah, Judas went to the chief priests (who did not believe Jesus was the Messiah) and asked them what they would give him if he handed Jesus over to them.
The priests agreed to give him 30 pieces of silver.
Matthew 26:16 says, “From that time on, Judas began looking for an opportunity to betray Jesus.”
It didn’t just happen, it was methodically planned and executed.
Ask: How would you feel if you knew one of your friends was plotting to betray you?
Allow a few responses from students.
The Bible says that Jesus knew Judas was going to betray Him.
Matthew 26:20 says, “When it was evening, Jesus sat down at the table with the Twelve. While they were eating, he said, “I tell you the truth, one of you will betray me.”
And when Judas asked Jesus if he was the one, Jesus replied, “You have said it.”
When I read this story, I wonder why Judas asked if he was the one who would betray Jesus when he knew it was him!
He knew the plans in his own heart, why did he ask Jesus if he was the one who would betray Him?
We don’t know, but maybe he wondered if Jesus knew.
Maybe he thought that somehow, Jesus didn’t know.
But, Judas’ betrayal led to the death of Jesus.
So, Jesus knew about Judas’ betrayal, did not stop him, and set the ultimate example for us to follow.
In the next few verses, we see Jesus praying and spending time with God.
God can remove our pain and replace it with love and forgiveness; that’s not human nature—it’s something only He can do.
When people you love turn their backs on you, realize that many times it doesn’t have anything to do with you, but rather a personal battle they are fighting within themselves.
Each of us will work through personal struggles at some point in our lives, and sometimes those around us suffer as a result of the situations we are working through.
Knowing this enables you to look at those who hurt you with compassion because they need God’s help as much as you do.
So, when you are betrayed, choose to take your hurt to God, instead of getting revenge.
God will help you, even when you can't see a path to healing, and will teach you how to help others when they feel betrayed.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON OBEDIENCE
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON OBEDIENCE
Bible: Psalm 119:35
Bottom Line: We have joy when we obey God.
SUPPLIES
- List of commands
- Slips of paper, each with a number from one to twelve
- 12 full sheets of copy paper, each with a number from one to twelve
- Masking tape
- Bucket
GAME PREP
Place the twelve numbered slips of paper into the bucket.
Before students arrive, use the masking tape to attach the sheets of copy paper to the ground.
Place the sheets of paper in a straight line across the front of your youth space, where you (the leader) will stand to give instructions for the game.
Divide students into groups of two and ask them to spread out all over your youth space.
Have each pair stand facing each other.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: We’re going to play a game that will see how well you obey commands.
If you’ve ever said, “You can’t tell me what to do,” you might have a little trouble with this game because that’s what it’s all about!
You have been given a partner.
I will read a command.
In your groups, each person will decide if you want to do the command or pass.
If you want to do it, raise your hand.
If you want to pass, point to your partner.
Only one of you can choose to do the command or pass, so you will want to choose quickly—and be honest about who said what first.
Got it?
Next, I will say, “Come!”
The person who raised their hand will quickly join me up front and stand on one of these numbers across the front, facing everyone else left standing without a partner.
More than one person can stand on each number if you have more than twelve pairs of students.
Next, I will say, “Go!”
Everyone up front will do what I commanded, but one of you will be eliminated.
How?
After I say, “Stop,” and everyone up front is standing still, I will draw a number from this bucket.
If I draw the number you are standing on, you will be eliminated from the game.
At that point, your partner can choose another partner from the people that are not standing upfront.
If your partner is chosen as someone’s new partner, you are also out of the game.
The people left in the game after all the commands have been given are the winners!
List of Commands
- Pat your head and rub your belly.
- Pretend like you’re jumping rope.
- Do jumping jacks.
- Stare at the ceiling and spin in circles.
- Whistle.
- Stand on one foot.
- Clap your hands as fast as you can.
- Put your hands on your hips and nod your head up and down.
TEACH
Say: That was a lot of fun to watch!
Sometimes, it’s easier to watch people do what they’re told than to actually do it yourself.
Ask: Have you ever heard the phrase, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks?”
Have any of you actually ever tried?
Why does/doesn’t it work?
Allow a few responses from students.
On the TV show, “Mythbusters,” they actually proved that you can teach an old dog new tricks.
After just one week, they taught two seven-year-old dogs to sit, stay, lie down, heel, and even shake hands [source: Discovery].
So, what’s the trick and how did they do it?
Time and patience.
Their experiment found that as long as the dog was healthy, felt loved, and was treated well, it was happy to do exactly what it was asked to do.
That didn’t mean it was easy.
It took a lot of repetition and patience as they were training the dogs.
So, there’s some good news—you can still teach Fido something new, even if you’ve never tried to teach him anything before now.
Ask: What about you—is it easy or hard for you to do what you’ve been told to do?
Would you consider yourself to be obedient?
Allow a few responses from students.
Most of us don’t mind doing what we’re told if we like what we’re being told to do.
If you have a chore you enjoy doing, then it’s not a big deal when your parents ask you to do it.
But, the other chores—the ones you don’t like—that’s a different story.
The truth is, sometimes we just have to be obedient, whether or not it’s what we want to do.
Read Psalm 119:35.
Make me walk along the path of your commands, for that is where my happiness is found.
The Bible is full of God’s commands.
The world tends to view these commands as rules that take all the fun out of life, but that’s not the case at all.
I’d like us to take a look at this verse in The Message.
If you’ve ever read The Message version of the Bible, sometimes, it’s a little easier to understand.
It’s not a word-for-word translation, but it paraphrases the verses into modern-day English.
Here’s Psalm 119:35 in The Message version:
God, teach me lessons for living so I can stay the course.
Give me insight so I can do what you tell me—my whole life one long, obedient response.
Guide me down the road of your commandments; I love traveling this freeway!
In this version of the scripture, you can really see the heart behind what King David has written.
He’s not being forced to follow God’s commands, it’s his desire—what he truly wants to do with his life.
Why? Because God’s commands aren’t written to control us, but to help us live the best life God has for us.
As people get older, sometimes, they think, “I’ve done too many wrong things and made too many bad choices to start following God now.”
But, it’s never too late!
Even at your age, you may think you’ve messed up too many times to start being obedient to what God has said.
No matter what you’ve done, you can have a fresh start and begin with a clean slate in God’s eyes.
There’s nothing any of us can do that makes it impossible for us to live a life that follows God.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences for things we’ve already done, but God will be with us even if we have to face things we’ve done in our past.
So, if you are new to following Christ, then start right where you are and take a look at what the Bible says about how you should live.
If you have a relationship with God, ask Him to give you wisdom and insight into what His commands are saying.
God’s commands play a vital role in the life of a believer.
God is wiser than we are—I’m pretty sure that we already knew that.
His commands protect us from making decisions that could hurt us.
For example: In the Ten Commandments, we read, “Do not kill.”
Most of us understand what happens if we murder someone—you go to prison, live with guilt and regret, and hurt others.
If we follow this command, then we are protected from the consequences that we would face if we committed murder.
But, the “big sins” aren’t the only types of things God warns us about.
The Bible is full of words of wisdom that lead us down a path that will bring us joy and contentment.
Just think, if you refuse to gossip about others, you don’t lie or act deceitfully, and you put the needs of others before yourself, you are setting yourself up to have great friendships and amazing relationships with others.
The wisdom we find in God’s commands helps us understand His heart and love for each of us.
No matter where you are in your relationship with God, you can begin to be obedient to God’s commands—not the rules of a dictator or someone who just wants to boss us around, but of a loving Father who has given us wisdom and knowledge to live a life that will be full of His joy.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON JUDGING OTHERS
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON JUDGING OTHERS
Bible: Romans 2:1-3
Bottom Line: You will be judged by how you judge others.
SUPPLIES
- A soft ball (kickball, dodgeball, foam ball, etc.)
- Stopwatch
GAME PREP
Have students form a circle by standing shoulder width apart and facing outwards.
Next, instruct them to stand with their legs apart so that their left foot is touching the right foot of their neighbor, and the only gaps are through their legs.
Now, have everyone bend down, with their hands clasped together swinging like a pendulum.
Have a leader on hand that can keep time on the stopwatch.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: It looks like we are ready to play the game, but you probably still can’t guess what we’re doing – we look kind of funny!
Choose one person who will stand in the middle of the circle.
I am going to ask _______ to stand in the middle of the circle.
And I’m going to put this ball in the middle of our circle.
The object of the game is to hit the ball with your hands (and remember that you have to remain bent over with your hands clasped together) and try to hit the person in the middle with the ball.
You will get one minute to hit the person with the ball.
If you are unsuccessful, the person in the middle will join back into the circle and I will choose someone to take their place.
If the person in the middle is hit by the ball, they are out of the game and will have to sit down.
The person that hit them with the ball will take their place in the middle of the circle.
During each minute of game play, the ball should always be moving and the person in the middle can move all around inside of the circle to avoid being hit by the ball.
The game is over when there are only three people remaining – because you can’t make a circle out of two people.
Or when you decide that you’ve played enough rounds of the game.
Congratulate the winners for a job well done.
TEACH
Say: Our game was kind of like a real-live version of a pinball machine.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever played on a pinball machine before.
Once the marble starts moving, you have to keep hitting it to keep it going, or the game is over.
The modern-day pinball machine was invented by a man named, David Gottlieb back in the 1930’s.
Before Gottlieb’s creation, there were several mechanisms that had to be invented that make the pinball machine possible.
Even after Gottlieb invented the game, soon after, coin-operated games were invented, and games that used electrical outlets became popular.
When you look at a pinball machine it might be easy to just assume that the entire machine was created at once, but it is actually made up of a series of inventions that give us the game we see today.
The pinball machine reminds me a lot of each of you.
When I look at you, I just see who you are right now.
I know some of you better than others, but it would be impossible for me to know everything that has led up to this point in your life.
So, it would also be wrong for me to make any judgements about you.
And that’s what we’re talking about today – judging others.
Immediately, some of you may have thought, “you can’t judge me!”
It’s almost our instant reaction because no one, and I mean no one, likes to be judged.
Ask: What does it mean to “judge” someone?
Allow a few responses from students.
Have you ever been judged unfairly by someone else?
As students share their experiences, encourage them to keep their answers as short as possible – some students might express some frustration in their responses.
Some of you shared some pretty hurtful experiences.
What if I asked: Have you ever unfairly judged someone else?
All of us would have to raise our hands because we’ve all done it.
A “first impression” is the seven-second window of time when we meet someone.
We make judgements about people all the time!
Ask: Have you ever gotten the wrong first impression of someone? Tell me about it.
Allow a few responses. Share a story about a time when you got a first impression totally wrong.
Scientists say that we actually make judgements about someone’s character in .01 seconds.
Wow! Can you imagine someone judging your character that quickly?
It almost seems unfair – that’s because it is.
Let’s see what the Bible has to say about judging other people.
Read Romans 2:1-3.
You may think you can condemn such people, but you are just as bad, and you have no excuse! When you say they are wicked and should be punished, you are condemning yourself, for you who judge others do these very same things.
And we know that God, in his justice, will punish anyone who does such things.
Since you judge others for doing these things, why do you think you can avoid God’s judgment when you do the same things?
The Book of Romans is a letter written by Paul to the Christians in Rome.
Leading up to the verses we just read, Paul is explaining that ALL of us have sinned against God.
Sometimes it’s easy for us to look at other people and see everything they have done wrong, but it’s important for us to remember that we are not perfect either.
And that is what Paul is telling these Christians – “You’re looking at people and wanting them to be punished for what they have done, when you’ve done the same things!”
Ask: Why do you think we want justice when other people do wrong?
Allow a few responses from students.
Some of our strong feelings may be influenced by our culture’s desire for things to be just, but there’s another part of our desire to judge that is just our human nature.
We want things to be fair.
Someone does something wrong, they should be punished.
The problem is that we don’t feel the same way when we are on the receiving end of the punishment – we want mercy!
These verses in Romans serve as a reminder that God is the ultimate judge.
Because He is the only being who has never sinned, He is the only one who can judge humanity.
We will be judged in the same way we judge others.
If we desire God to show us mercy in His judgement towards us, shouldn’t we want the same for others?
That way of thinking changes our point of view.
Instead of judging others, what if we showed them the benefit of the doubt, by remembering that we aren’t perfect either?
Choose to show mercy when it comes to how you judge others.
Ask God to examine your heart and show you the people you have judged too harshly.
And then, choose mercy instead of judgement.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON COMPASSION
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON COMPASSION
Bible: Psalm 145:8; John 13:34-35
Bottom Line: Genuine compassion always leads to action.
SUPPLIES
- Index cards (enough for each group of students to have 5 pieces)
- Pens/pencils (one for each group of students)
- A bucket
- Index cards with the answers (provided below)
GAME PREP
Divide students into five groups of equal size and have them form huddles.
Give each group five index cards and a pen/pencil.
Place the bucket up front.
Write the following, one word on each index card:
- H.H.M.H. (Helping Hands Monkey Helpers)
- T.C.I.F. (Tall Clubs International Foundation)
- B.B.I. (Best Buddies International)
- S.O.I. (Sports Outreach Institute)
- W.B.P. (Women’s Bean Project)
Have a leader on hand that can keep score for all the teams.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: How many of you enjoy helping other people?
I’m glad to see that you think it’s important, because it is!
All over the world, there are groups and organizations that help others.
In our game today, we’re going to learn the names of a few of them.
I will read the initials of an organization out loud.
With your huddle, you will come up with a word for each letter of the initials, write them down on your team’s index card, and place them in the bucket.
You will want to come up with something that is super convincing because it will help you win.
For example: If I read the letters “H.F.C.,” you might guess something like, Help Feed Children.
The real answer is: Heroes for Children.
But, if you came up with a convincing answer, then you would get points for every team that chooses your answer—I will tell you more about that in a minute.
I will also place a card with the actual answer in the bucket with everyone else’s answers.
Next, I will read each card out loud.
When I read you team’s answer, don’t make it obvious.
The goal is to write down an answer that is so convincing that the other teams will think it is correct.
Then, we will go around the room and hear which answer your team thinks is the correct one.
After everyone has chosen an answer, I will reveal the real answer.
If your team guessed correctly, you will get two points.
You will also get a point for every team that thought your answer was correct.
The team with the most points after all five rounds, wins!
TEACH
Say: Winning team, how did you feel about that game?
Did you feel bad for the teams that lost the game?
Allow a few responses from students.
Ask: Have you ever felt genuinely sorry for someone?
What situation occurred that made you feel sorry for them?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share a personal story of a time you felt sorry for someone and how you responded with your actions.
Other situations that make us feel sorry, or sad, for someone might be:
If you see someone trip and fall—hopefully, you don’t laugh, but instead, you feel bad for them.
Or when someone tries to do something and they don’t do as well as they had hoped—like being the last runner to finish in a race.
How about when someone is rejected by a friend who turns their back on them or betrays them?
Not only do those types of situations make us feel sorry for the people involved, but they can also produce compassion for others and their situation.
Today, that’s what we’re talking about: compassion.
The meaning of compassion is, “to suffer together.”
It goes beyond just feeling and emotion, and leads to action.
For example: the person that trips and falls while carrying all of their school books—you see them fall, run to them, help them stand, and pick up their books.
Genuine compassion always leads to action.
A person could not say they had compassion if they only watched the person struggle to stand back up, dust themselves off, and keep going without any help.
Compassion is demonstrated in how we act towards others.
In the United States, there are over 1.5 MILLION charities.
I said MILLION.
Typically, a charity is founded out of a desire to help a group of people or a cause.
Most of us are familiar with charities that help kids with cancer, homeless people, or animals who need to be adopted.
But, there are also charities that I’ve never heard of, and maybe you haven’t either, that are one-of-a-kind.
For example, “Shaving Away the Eyebrows” was a charity fundraiser by a man named Si Burgher in Indiana.
Si had to brush his 3-inch eyebrows every day to keep them out of his eyes—wow!
He decided to raise money for a polio foundation by allowing people to trim his eyebrows.
He raised over $1600 for trimming his eyebrows!
Or, there’s this one: “The Association for Pet Obesity Prevention.”
Worried about your dog or cat becoming too chubby?
You can give to this foundation that is researching healthy ways to keep our pets from becoming obese.
Here’s one more—a man named Matt Jones allowed himself to be hit by 21,000 paintballs to demonstrate how many children die from poverty every single day.
He allowed himself to feel pain in order to help others see the number of children who are dying from not having enough food and water.
Each of those stories, although they might seem strange or extreme, represent people who were moved to compassion because they believed in a cause and wanted to make a difference.
As followers of Jesus, we should feel compassion towards others.
Why? Because God has shown compassion for us.
Read Psalm 145:8.
The Lord is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
When we look at the people and situations all around us, sometimes it can be difficult to show compassion.
Maybe you get frustrated seeing the situations that people allow themselves to live in.
Why don’t they just change how they live?
Or, it might be difficult to have mercy towards people who don’t show mercy to others.
God could feel the same way about us, but instead, He shows compassion.
He isn’t impatient when we make bad decisions—He loves us.
And God demonstrated the ultimate form of compassion when He sent Jesus to earth.
Ask: How does God show love and compassion to us every day?
Allow a few responses from students.
Ask: Has anyone ever shown compassion to you when you didn’t feel like you deserved it?
How did that affect you?
Allow a few more responses from students.
When we show compassion and mercy to others, whether we feel like they deserve it or not, we are demonstrating the heart of God.
Compassion isn’t based on what we’ve done, deserve, or even what we need.
If compassion was based on whether or not someone deserved it, God would have never shown compassion to us.
Each of us have disobeyed God’s commands and sinned against Him, but God’s compassion is founded in mercy and love.
So, we should be so full of the same mercy and love that God pours into our lives that it flows into the lives of others.
When we do this, we are following what God tells us in His Word:
John 13:34-35 says, “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
We show that we are disciples of Jesus when we show love to others.
Ask: When you think about the world around you, how can you demonstrate compassion in how you live?
Is there something that you could do to show compassion?
Allow a few responses from students.
You might want to write down the things the students suggest and consider starting a compassion initiative together as a youth group.
I’m really proud of the ideas you have and the love you have for other people.
Sometimes, when we step out and do something new or out of our comfort zone, it isn’t easy, and sometimes it isn’t even well received.
Just like the compassion God has shown for us, what you do isn’t based on whether or not people appreciate or accept it.
Don’t let the way others respond stop or discourage you from demonstrating compassion.
God sees your heart and He knows the motives behind your actions.
When you show compassion, you are a walking example of God’s love for others, just like Jesus.
And in the end, that’s all that really matters.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON IDENTITY
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON IDENTITY
Bible: Colossians 3:1-3 (NLT)
Bottom Line: You discover your true identity by understanding who God is and by becoming who He made you to be.
Supplies:
- Index cards
- Pen
- Bucket
GAME PREP
Write each students’ name down on an index card—one name per card.
Place all of the cards in a bucket.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, we’re talking about identity—who we really are.
This game is going to give us the opportunity to get to know each other a little better, and see how well we already know each other.
In this bucket, I have each person’s name written down on an index card.
I am going to pull out two index cards with names on them.
Next, I will turn my back to all of you and ask that each of you come up to me, one at a time, so I can show you the name on a card.
I will show some of you one name, and some of you the other name.
Do not tell anyone whose name you saw written down, or you will be out of the game.
When I say, “Go,” you will have 3 minutes to ask each other questions about the name they were shown.
The goal of this game is to separate yourselves into two groups—one group for each name.
Oh, and throughout this game, you cannot talk.
If you talk, then you are out of the game.
That means if the person you are trying to figure out wears glasses, then you will hold your hands up to your eyes to demonstrate that they wear glasses.
If they sing, then maybe you would pretend to hold a microphone—anything you can think of to identify the person whose name you saw without pointing to them.
Just do your best to impersonate the person whose name was on the card and form a group with the people who had the same person.
You will have 3 minutes to form your groups.
If you have not joined a group by the end of the 3 minutes, you are out.
I will then count to 3 and ask everyone in your group to say the name of the person whose name was on the card.
I will do this for both groups.
If you were not in the correct group, you are out—you need to be honest.
After we have eliminated the people who are out, I will draw 2 more cards and we will continue to play.
Continue to play as long as you would like, or until there are only a few people left, then declare a winning team.
You are assuming that the majority of people in one group will have seen the same name.
If you have a round where you can’t tell which group was which, then just do that round over again.
If many people are not being eliminated in each round, then lower the time allowance to 2 minutes per round, or one minute per round, etc.…
TEACH
Ask: Was it easy or hard to guess who everyone was trying to impersonate in each round?
Allow a few responses from students.
It was interesting to see how you described each other without using words.
I’m going to tell you something today that you might already realize—You’re at the age that people are starting to ask, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
And they expect a real answer.
At your age, you can no longer say you want to be a “butterfly/cheerleader/doctor.”
When you were younger, that was cute—but now, your grandparents and teachers want to hear something more profound that lets them know you don’t plan on laying on a couch in your parent’s basement forever.
Ask: How do you feel when people ask about your plans for the future?
Do you have something to say, or do you just give them a blank stare?
Allow a few responses from students. Share your personal experiences of how you felt during that time in your life—did you know what you wanted to “be”?
Here’s the thing, people are going to ask you questions about your future plans for the rest of your life:
- Are you dating anyone?
- When are you getting married?
- Are you going to have kids? And then, when are you going to have more kids?
- When will you retire from your job?
It never ends!
But, there’s something important you need to remember throughout every stage of life—who you arehas nothing to do with what your career is, who you are married to, or how many kids you have.
Your identity, or how you view who you really are, should be wrapped up in who you are in Christ.
Read Colossians 3:1-3. (NLT)
Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand.
Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God.
Ask: Have you ever known someone who has gone through an “identity crisis?”
That typically means at some point, they took a look at their life and thought, “I have no idea who I am anymore.”
Even at your age, you might already feel like that.
Maybe you’ve gone through some changes in your personal life, your family, at school, or in your friendships that have made you question what you’re all about.
It’s okay!
Everyone works through some form of those feelings in their lifetime.
It’s actually very normal.
That might be why Paul (and possibly Timothy) addresses this topic to the Church in Colossae.
He’s reminding these believers that they have died to this life and now, their real life is hidden with Christ in God.
Ask: So, what do you think this verse means by, “hidden with Christ in God”?
Allow a few responses from students. Share how your own life changed when you made a commitment to Christ.
Our identity, our very own life, is no longer ours, but is found in who Christ is and what He has done—it’s an amazing gift to us.
No longer should we struggle to discover who we are, because our character and whole self is wrapped up in who Jesus is.
That is, unless you want to struggle—and some people choose to do so.
Ask: Why do you think someone would continue to struggle with identity, even after they have given their life to the Lord? How is that possible?
Allow a few responses from students. Share your own personal struggle with allowing God to help you with your identity in Him.
Answer: Because we are human, and throughout our lives we will continually have to make the choice to be who God wants us to be, and not just follow our own path.
The whole world is telling you who you should be.
We hear it on social media, and at times, it can seem to bombard us every time we turn around.
Your friends and loved ones have opinions about what decisions you should make, what career path you should take, and on and on.
And while we need their godly guidance, it really comes down to a choice you will make for your own life.
So, take some of the pressure off of yourself by remembering the only way to figure out who you really are is by understanding who God is and by becoming who He made you to be.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FORGIVENESS
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FORGIVENESS
Bible: Matthew 6:14-15 (NLT)
Bottom Line: We should forgive others because God has forgiven us.
SUPPLIES
- 50 Sheets of copy paper—Draw a large heart in the middle of each sheet of paper
- 2 Buckets of water
- 20 Foam dishwashing sponges cut into halves
GAME PREP
This is an outdoor water game and you will need a fairly large playing space.
Divide students into two teams of equal size.
Then, instruct each team to split into two equal-sized groups.
Have each team choose a captain.
Give each team a bucket of water containing 20 foam sponge halves.
Also, give each team captain 25 sheets of copy paper.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, you are going to do your best to break each other’s hearts.
Now, I know that’s not something we typically encourage, but it’s how you will win our game today.
I need one group from each team to stand at each end of our game space.
Have one group from each team stand with the buckets of sponges at one end of the space.
Each of these groups will form a single file line.
Have the other group stand at the other end of the space with the team captain and the pieces of paper with hearts drawn on them.
All of the those with the team captain will form a line by standing side-by-side.
The team captain will give each of those people a piece of paper to hold in front of them.
When I say, “Go,” one person from each team will throw 10 sponges, one at a time, at the pieces of paper being held by your teammates at the other end.
Your goal is to soak up as much water as you can and hit the pieces of paper so that they eventually rip because of the water.
You cannot just rip your piece of paper; it has to break because of the water.
After you take your turn and throw your sponges, the next person on your team will take their turn while you are picking up the sponges and returning them to your bucket.
If your piece of paper rips, you will trade places with the person that threw the sponge at your paper—even if they didn’t get to finish throwing all of their sponges on their turn—and you will pick up the sponges they had thrown.
The team captain will be responsible for giving their teammates a new piece of paper when a piece rips.
The first team to break 10 of their hearts (or however many you choose) wins!
TEACH
Say: You might not want to, but you really should forgive each other for being so brutal in our game.
It was all in good fun!
Here, however, is an example of someone who was not quite so willing to move on from the pain someone caused in her life.
When Leslie Ray 'Popeye' Charping passed away, his daughter submitted an obituary in the local newspaper that expressed her feelings about her father—and she held nothing back.
Here’s what she wrote:
"At a young age, Leslie quickly became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing, and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to serve in the Navy, but not so much in a brave & patriotic way, but more so as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges.
Leslie's hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to heaven for the beloved family pets, and fishing, which he was less skilled with than the previously mentioned. Leslie's life served no other obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society or serve his community and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides quick-witted sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days.
With Leslie's passing, he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving husband, father, and good friend.
Leslie's passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.”
Leslie’s daughter had a lot to say, but what she didn’t say spoke the loudest—she did not forgive her father for the pain he had caused her, and she wanted to make sure no one else did either.
Forgiveness is often difficult to choose, especially when you have to overcome feelings of disappointment, resentment, or the desire for revenge.
Let’s read what Jesus told His followers and the crowd that was gathered around Him, as part of what we call, “The Sermon on the Mount.”
Read Matthew 6:14-15.
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Once our eyes have been opened to how much God has forgiven us, we no longer have the option to allow bitterness and un-forgiveness to be part of our lives.
If we choose not to forgive someone, we are saying they are less deserving of forgiveness than we are.
Ask: Why is it more difficult to forgive some things more than others? Or some people?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a time when it was difficult to forgive someone in your own life.
Ask: Have you witnessed the long-time results of unforgiveness in your life, or in the lives of those you love?
Allow a few responses from students.
Forgiveness is pretty important in the life of a believer because without it, we cannot have a restored relationship with God.
Unforgiveness will separate us from God.
Here are a couple of reasons why those who desire a relationship with God should forgive others and themselves.
- When you are focused on the hurt and pain of the past, you can’t move into a future that is free of those things.
It’s like carrying a heavy weight around your neck that you can’t remove on your own.
God will forgive us of the things that separate us from Him if we simply ask, allowing us to move forward in life with a clean slate and the heaviness removed.
When you forgive others for the things they have done to cause you pain, you are allowing them to experience that same gift in their own lives.
- Unforgiveness isn’t healthy.
Bitterness can affect your body.
It can actually make you sick, causing ulcers, depression, anxiety, heart problems, and more.
Maybe it’s because our bodies were not created to live with those feelings; it is not part of God’s plan for us.
Unforgiveness will also affect the healthy relationships in our lives.
Feelings of bitterness and resentment can be difficult to turn off and on, so it’s not unimaginable that those who love you would get the brunt of your harsh feelings towards others.
- If we don’t forgive others, God won’t forgive us.
It’s cut and dry, “But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
God loves us so much and He knows we can’t serve Him with a forgiven heart that is holding unforgiveness against someone else.
Unforgiveness clouds our vision from seeing a picture of God’s love because it’s actually the opposite of who God is.
Today, you can begin to take steps towards healing in even the most difficult relationships of your life.
You might not be able to work on forgiving someone on your own—you might need someone to walk through it with you.
Share your feelings with a pastor, parent, or a godly friend.
And then, ask God to help you show to others the same forgiveness you have received from Him.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON ANGER
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON ANGER
Bible: Proverbs 29:11(NLT)
Bottom Line: God walks with us through all of our emotions and in every situation.
Supplies:
- Four 44-ounce cups (the type you can purchase from convenience store drink stations)
- Duct Tape
GAME PREP
Attach 2 cups together at the bottoms by wrapping duct tape around them—you should have 2 sets.
Divide students into two teams of equal size and have each team form a single file line.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, we have a game that might test your patience with yourself and each other.
Put your hands on the shoulders of the person in front of you.
Throughout this game, you cannot take your hands off of their shoulders, no matter what happens.
Give each team a set of the cups that are taped together.
When I say, “Go,” the person at the front of your line will put one end of the cup on their right foot and pass it off to the right foot of the person behind them.
The passing will continue until it reaches the person at the end of the line.
Then, the last person in line will put the cup on their left foot (without taking their hands off of the shoulders of the person in front them) and begin passing the cup back to the front of their line, using their left feet.
The first team to pass the cups back to the front of the line wins!
TEACH
Say: That game might have been a little frustrating for some of you, but you did a great job keeping your feelings under control.
So, today, I have a confession to make—sometimes, I get angry.
Of course, not at any of you.
But at situations that happen in my life.
Like, when another driver cuts me off on the road.
Or someone cuts in front of me in line at Starbucks.
Or when someone eats the last of my (say your favorite food).
It’s difficult not to show when I get angry.
I have to make the choice to let God help me when I feel angry.
Ask: But, did you know the Bible says it’s okay to get angry?
What are some things that make you angry?
Allow a few responses from students.
In the New Testament, we read that even Jesus got angry when people were using the Temple area to cheat, overcharge, and steal from people.
Jesus overturned tables and yelled at people for desecrating God’s house.
Ask: Can someone share a time that you let anger get the best of you and then you had to pay the consequences for your angry actions?
Allow a few responses.
Being angry never turns out well for either side.
People can get hurt, physically and emotionally—which can then lead to spiritual hurt.
Read Proverbs 29:11.
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.
Ask: Name some situations or circumstances when it’s okay to feel angry.
Encourage the students to focus on the situation, not a person or group of people. Examples could be cancer, injustice, pollution, or similar things.
Anger affects people in different ways.
When some people get angry, they might want to punch something or throw something.
Others may want to scream, yell, or stomp their feet.
Other translations of this verse say that fools give full vent to their anger.
That means they just let it all out and unload on anyone and everyone that comes near when they’re angry.
But the last part of that Scripture says that the wise quietly hold it back.
It doesn’t mean the wise don’t get angry, but they are not the ones who will vomit their anger all over anyone in their way.
So, what is the difference between the anger that fools vent and the anger of a wise person?
Let’s look at Jesus.
When Jesus was angry at the “money-changers” in the Temple, He was angry that they were stealing from people.
They were treating the Temple as just another way to scam people out of money.
Similar to those social media scams that say, “Send me $19.95, and I’ll tell you the secret to making millions from the internet.”
Jesus was angry because what they were doing was not right.
When you get angry, are you angry at the person or the situation?
Allow a few responses from students.
A wise person holds their anger back quietly.
It doesn’t mean that they never feel angry, but they don’t show it very much, very often, or hardly ever at all.
Since every human being on the planet gets angry, including you and I, here are a couple of things you can do to help manage your emotions:
- Choose your battles.
Wise people who hold back their anger are able to assess a situation and decide what is worth getting angry about and when they should keep quiet.
There are things that every Christian should get angry about, and do something about if they can—and if God directs them to take certain actions.
Even though people can be extremely passionate about situations and issues, remember that people are made in God’s image and we are called to love everyone—even if we disagree with what they stand for or believe in.
- Don’t respond immediately.
When we face a situation that makes us angry, we naturally want to lash out in the moment.
But, don’t!
Take a breath, walk away, do whatever you need to do to keep from responding negatively in the moment of anger.
Then, once you’ve considered an appropriate, Christ-like response, explain that you are angry at the situation, but not the person.
For those who may get angry quickly, there are tools you can use to help manage your anger—consider working out or running to let off some steam.
You can also talk to a trusted adult or friend who will pray with you when you need help.
Sometimes, even just separating yourself from a situation can make a big difference in how you react.
You will find that many things are just not worth getting, or staying, angry over.
God has given us so many tools in His Word that help us in every situation in life.
His desire is to walk with us through all of our emotions and in every situation.
God is with you, even when you’re angry and you can always turn to Him to help you.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DOUBT
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DOUBT
Bible: Matthew 14:30-31(NLT)
Bottom Line: When life is hard, allow your faith to take the place that doubt could fill.
SUPPLIES
- Paper lunch bags – 2 per student
- 2 Bananas
- 2 Pencils, 2 sheets of paper
- 2 Rolls of toilet paper
- 2 Tubes of lipstick
- 2 Decks of playing cards
GAME PREP
Divide students into two teams of equal size.
Give each student two paper lunch bags and tell them to place them on their hands.
Choose a “captain” for each team and give them a list of the following tasks.
- Peel and eat a banana.
- Have each person on your team write their name on a piece of paper.
- Form a straight line and unroll a roll of toilet paper by passing from the front of the line to the end and back without letting it break.
- Have three people tie their shoelaces.
- Have one person perfectly apply lipstick.
- Create a “house of cards” that utilizes 15 or more cards and is at least 3 levels of cards high.
Have one leader assigned to watch each team to ensure they have completed each task correctly.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, I have divided you into two teams to perform six tasks that will be pretty challenging.
Your team captain has been given a list of these tasks and they will be responsible for deciding who will complete each one.
Here are a couple of notes:
Everyone must participate in at least one task.
You must complete the tasks in order and you can only begin the next task after you have finished the previous one.
A leader will let you know when you are “signed off” for each task.
The first team to finish all of the tasks, and have a standing house of cards at the end of the game wins!
TEACH
Say: At some point during our game, you probably doubted whether or not you would be able to finish—and forget about winning, you just wanted to get it done!
When you think about the stories we read in the Bible, many times we remember the examples of people with great faith in God.
But the Bible also tells about those who dealt with personal feelings of doubt.
In Matthew 14, we read the story of when Jesus fed over 5,000 people with five loaves of bread and two fish—it was a miracle!
Jesus’ disciples had seen it happen with their very own eyes, which is why I think what happens in the following few verses is so interesting.
The crowds went home after they ate their meal of fish and bread, the disciples went across the lake in a boat, and Jesus went up into the hills to pray.
While the disciples were out in the boat, they encountered a storm.
In the middle of the storm, Jesus walked on the water toward their boat.
He tells them not to be afraid and Peter asks Jesus to prove Himself.
Peter says, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.”
And Jesus tells Peter to come to Him.
But, let’s read what happens in the following verses.
Read Matthew 14:30-31.
But when he saw the strongwind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted.
Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”
Say: Let’s take a minute and imagine that entire scenario.
The disciples are in a storm and they see someone walking across the water.
The Bible says the disciples actually thought Jesus was a ghost.
I mean, what other explanation would they possibly have for what was coming at them in the middle of the water?
But, when they see Jesus, they ask Him to prove it’s really Him.
Who did they think it was?
Next, Peter begins to walk on the water towards Jesus and as he looks around, doubt settles in and he begins to sink.
Jesus doesn’t let Peter drown.
He could have, but He shows Peter grace and saves him.
As Jesus is pulling Peter out of the water, he asks Peter, “Why did you doubt me?”
The Bible doesn’t record Peter’s answer, and maybe it’s because he didn’t have one.
Really, what could he say?
Ask: Think about your own life.... have you ever doubted God?
Maybe you’ve had questions about whether the Bible is true, or if God is even real.
Have you ever doubted whether God was going to help you in a situation?
Allow a few responses from students. Create a safe place where students can be honest about their doubts.
Peter looked into the face of Jesus and doubted who He was and he had an advantage that we don’t have—he was looking at Him!
When we ask God questions and work through our own feelings of doubt, Jesus responds the same way to us as He did to Peter.
What was Jesus’ response?
He saved him.
Doubts are feelings of uncertainty and all of us experience them at one time or another.
But, you can’t allow yourself to live in those feelings.
Peter overcame his doubt when he asked Jesus to save him—and Jesus did.
We need to choose faith over doubt, even in the midst of our questions.
Here are a few things you can do when you feel doubt creeping in:
1. Take a look at what has happened in your life to cause you to doubt God.
3. Talk to people who will encourage you, even in your times of doubt.
Ask your parents, pastors, and friends—who are growing in their relationship with God—how they learned from the doubts in their lives.
Be honest with others and realize you aren’t alone.
You’re going to experience tough times in life, but you have the opportunity to grow and become stronger in your faith, even if that means you have to work through your doubts.
Just remember: When life is hard, allow your faith to take the place that doubt could fill.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FAITH
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FAITH
Bible: Hebrews 11:1; James 1:2-3
Bottom Line: Trials provide an opportunity for your faith to grow.
SUPPLIES
- 2 Poster boards
- Sharpie
- Copy of game questions for leaders (included in download)
- 4 copies of “Remember This” (included in download)
- Prize for the winner
GAME PREP
Students will begin this game in four teams of equal size, but then play the second part of the game as individuals.
Each team will need a captain; give them a copy of “Remember This.”
Cut the poster boards in half to make 4 pieces.
On each half piece of poster board, write one letter: A – B – C – D
Now that each poster board has a letter, have someone (preferably a leader) hold each letter and stand somewhere around the room.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Raise your hand if you enjoy taking tests.
Most of us don’t, especially if we don’t have much time to study—we call that cramming, and some of you are really good at it!
Each of you have been placed on a team with a captain who is holding a copy of “Remember This.”
When I say, “Go,” your team captain will read the paper out loud as many times as they can within 3 minutes.
During this time, you will pay close attention to the story and try to remember as many facts as you can.
You are not allowed to write anything down or type anything into your phone.
At the end of three minutes, I will collect all of the copies of “Remember This” and the second part of our game will begin.
You will now play as individuals answering the questions on your own.
At that point, I will begin to ask questions about what your captain read to you.
Each question will be multiple choice.
Take note of the people who are holding the letters A – B – C – D.
After I read the question, you will stand by the letter of the answer you choose.
I will eliminate one letter at a time.
If the answer is “A,” I will say, “Letter B is not the answer.”
At that point, all of the people at Letter B will be out and everyone else can stay at their letter or consider changing their answer—but you will have to do it quickly.
Then, I will say, “Letter C is not the answer,” and you will either be eliminated or you can take the opportunity to change your answer.
Then, I will eliminate Letter D.
Everyone who was on Letter A will remain in the game and continue to play.
When we have 4 or less players left in the game, you cannot share a letter with anyone else, so you will need to hurry to be the first one to arrive at the correct letter.
We will continue to play until there is only one person left and they will be declared the WINNER!
TEACH
Ask: If I asked you to tell me if you have a lot of faith, what would you say?
Allow a few responses.
You might be wondering if I have a lot of faith.
My response is, faith in what?
The definition of the word, “faith,” means, “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.”
So, do I have a lot of “complete trust in someone or something?”?
It depends on who or what you’re talking about.
I’m not trying to give confusing answers.
I just want us to spend some time digging deep into what faith means to us as followers of Jesus.
You see, the Bible defines spiritual faith as so much more than just faith.
Hebrews 11:1 says, “Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see.”
The biblical definition of faith also includes the fact that we don’t have to see what we believe or who we believe in.
Ask: So, let me ask the question this way—how much faith do you have in God?
What’s the difference in the way you answered the question the first time?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a personal experience of how faith has impacted your life.
Now, let’s read James 1:2-3.
Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.
In these verses, we learn that our faith can be “tested” when trouble comes our way.
Ask: How do trials and tough times “test” your faith?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a personal story of when your faith was tested.
Think about this—If your history teacher gives you a test at school, you will have the opportunity to show how well you’ve been learning and paying attention to what you were taught.
Now, for some people, tests are really hard.
Maybe, when the time comes, they get a brain freeze and can’t remember anything.
Or, they get really confused and can’t recall everything they have learned.
Can any of you relate?
That experience can be really frustrating, but every once in a while, you might have a teacher who understands and will allow you to take a test again to see if you can do better.
Think of Jesus as that teacher.
He will allow us to be tested in areas of our faith, but He isn’t waiting for us to fail.
Jesus gives us the opportunity to demonstrate how we have grown in our faith and He wants to see us succeed, even if we failed the first time.
If we don’t get it right away, He is a loving teacher who will encourage us and let us try again.
Ask: So, how can we prepare for “tests” of faith?
Allow a few responses from students. Share how you personally prepare your heart and mind for tests.
We prepare by studying God’s Word and reading examples of others who have experienced tests and learned from them.
Pray and ask God to give you wisdom and knowledge so that when your faith is tested, you know what to do.
And talk to family, friends, and pastors who can help guide you through tests of faith.
God does not want us to face trials on our own.
He has placed people in our lives who can help us when we need it the most.
Think back to the history test.
How do you feel when you get an A, or even when you just pass the test?
It feels awesome!
Compare that to what the Bible says about troubles that test our faith.
It gives us an “opportunity for great joy.”
When you are faced with tough times and you don’t allow them to destroy your faith, you can say you have passed the test!
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