YOUTH GROUP GAME ON COMPASSION
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON COMPASSION
Bible: Psalm 145:8; John 13:34-35
Bottom Line: Genuine compassion always leads to action.
SUPPLIES
- Index cards (enough for each group of students to have 5 pieces)
- Pens/pencils (one for each group of students)
- A bucket
- Index cards with the answers (provided below)
GAME PREP
Divide students into five groups of equal size and have them form huddles.
Give each group five index cards and a pen/pencil.
Place the bucket up front.
Write the following, one word on each index card:
- H.H.M.H. (Helping Hands Monkey Helpers)
- T.C.I.F. (Tall Clubs International Foundation)
- B.B.I. (Best Buddies International)
- S.O.I. (Sports Outreach Institute)
- W.B.P. (Women’s Bean Project)
Have a leader on hand that can keep score for all the teams.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: How many of you enjoy helping other people?
I’m glad to see that you think it’s important, because it is!
All over the world, there are groups and organizations that help others.
In our game today, we’re going to learn the names of a few of them.
I will read the initials of an organization out loud.
With your huddle, you will come up with a word for each letter of the initials, write them down on your team’s index card, and place them in the bucket.
You will want to come up with something that is super convincing because it will help you win.
For example: If I read the letters “H.F.C.,” you might guess something like, Help Feed Children.
The real answer is: Heroes for Children.
But, if you came up with a convincing answer, then you would get points for every team that chooses your answer—I will tell you more about that in a minute.
I will also place a card with the actual answer in the bucket with everyone else’s answers.
Next, I will read each card out loud.
When I read you team’s answer, don’t make it obvious.
The goal is to write down an answer that is so convincing that the other teams will think it is correct.
Then, we will go around the room and hear which answer your team thinks is the correct one.
After everyone has chosen an answer, I will reveal the real answer.
If your team guessed correctly, you will get two points.
You will also get a point for every team that thought your answer was correct.
The team with the most points after all five rounds, wins!
TEACH
Say: Winning team, how did you feel about that game?
Did you feel bad for the teams that lost the game?
Allow a few responses from students.
Ask: Have you ever felt genuinely sorry for someone?
What situation occurred that made you feel sorry for them?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share a personal story of a time you felt sorry for someone and how you responded with your actions.
Other situations that make us feel sorry, or sad, for someone might be:
If you see someone trip and fall—hopefully, you don’t laugh, but instead, you feel bad for them.
Or when someone tries to do something and they don’t do as well as they had hoped—like being the last runner to finish in a race.
How about when someone is rejected by a friend who turns their back on them or betrays them?
Not only do those types of situations make us feel sorry for the people involved, but they can also produce compassion for others and their situation.
Today, that’s what we’re talking about: compassion.
The meaning of compassion is, “to suffer together.”
It goes beyond just feeling and emotion, and leads to action.
For example: the person that trips and falls while carrying all of their school books—you see them fall, run to them, help them stand, and pick up their books.
Genuine compassion always leads to action.
A person could not say they had compassion if they only watched the person struggle to stand back up, dust themselves off, and keep going without any help.
Compassion is demonstrated in how we act towards others.
In the United States, there are over 1.5 MILLION charities.
I said MILLION.
Typically, a charity is founded out of a desire to help a group of people or a cause.
Most of us are familiar with charities that help kids with cancer, homeless people, or animals who need to be adopted.
But, there are also charities that I’ve never heard of, and maybe you haven’t either, that are one-of-a-kind.
For example, “Shaving Away the Eyebrows” was a charity fundraiser by a man named Si Burgher in Indiana.
Si had to brush his 3-inch eyebrows every day to keep them out of his eyes—wow!
He decided to raise money for a polio foundation by allowing people to trim his eyebrows.
He raised over $1600 for trimming his eyebrows!
Or, there’s this one: “The Association for Pet Obesity Prevention.”
Worried about your dog or cat becoming too chubby?
You can give to this foundation that is researching healthy ways to keep our pets from becoming obese.
Here’s one more—a man named Matt Jones allowed himself to be hit by 21,000 paintballs to demonstrate how many children die from poverty every single day.
He allowed himself to feel pain in order to help others see the number of children who are dying from not having enough food and water.
Each of those stories, although they might seem strange or extreme, represent people who were moved to compassion because they believed in a cause and wanted to make a difference.
As followers of Jesus, we should feel compassion towards others.
Why? Because God has shown compassion for us.
Read Psalm 145:8.
The Lord is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
When we look at the people and situations all around us, sometimes it can be difficult to show compassion.
Maybe you get frustrated seeing the situations that people allow themselves to live in.
Why don’t they just change how they live?
Or, it might be difficult to have mercy towards people who don’t show mercy to others.
God could feel the same way about us, but instead, He shows compassion.
He isn’t impatient when we make bad decisions—He loves us.
And God demonstrated the ultimate form of compassion when He sent Jesus to earth.
Ask: How does God show love and compassion to us every day?
Allow a few responses from students.
Ask: Has anyone ever shown compassion to you when you didn’t feel like you deserved it?
How did that affect you?
Allow a few more responses from students.
When we show compassion and mercy to others, whether we feel like they deserve it or not, we are demonstrating the heart of God.
Compassion isn’t based on what we’ve done, deserve, or even what we need.
If compassion was based on whether or not someone deserved it, God would have never shown compassion to us.
Each of us have disobeyed God’s commands and sinned against Him, but God’s compassion is founded in mercy and love.
So, we should be so full of the same mercy and love that God pours into our lives that it flows into the lives of others.
When we do this, we are following what God tells us in His Word:
John 13:34-35 says, “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
We show that we are disciples of Jesus when we show love to others.
Ask: When you think about the world around you, how can you demonstrate compassion in how you live?
Is there something that you could do to show compassion?
Allow a few responses from students.
You might want to write down the things the students suggest and consider starting a compassion initiative together as a youth group.
I’m really proud of the ideas you have and the love you have for other people.
Sometimes, when we step out and do something new or out of our comfort zone, it isn’t easy, and sometimes it isn’t even well received.
Just like the compassion God has shown for us, what you do isn’t based on whether or not people appreciate or accept it.
Don’t let the way others respond stop or discourage you from demonstrating compassion.
God sees your heart and He knows the motives behind your actions.
When you show compassion, you are a walking example of God’s love for others, just like Jesus.
And in the end, that’s all that really matters.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON IDENTITY
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON IDENTITY
Bible: Colossians 3:1-3 (NLT)
Bottom Line: You discover your true identity by understanding who God is and by becoming who He made you to be.
Supplies:
- Index cards
- Pen
- Bucket
GAME PREP
Write each students’ name down on an index card—one name per card.
Place all of the cards in a bucket.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, we’re talking about identity—who we really are.
This game is going to give us the opportunity to get to know each other a little better, and see how well we already know each other.
In this bucket, I have each person’s name written down on an index card.
I am going to pull out two index cards with names on them.
Next, I will turn my back to all of you and ask that each of you come up to me, one at a time, so I can show you the name on a card.
I will show some of you one name, and some of you the other name.
Do not tell anyone whose name you saw written down, or you will be out of the game.
When I say, “Go,” you will have 3 minutes to ask each other questions about the name they were shown.
The goal of this game is to separate yourselves into two groups—one group for each name.
Oh, and throughout this game, you cannot talk.
If you talk, then you are out of the game.
That means if the person you are trying to figure out wears glasses, then you will hold your hands up to your eyes to demonstrate that they wear glasses.
If they sing, then maybe you would pretend to hold a microphone—anything you can think of to identify the person whose name you saw without pointing to them.
Just do your best to impersonate the person whose name was on the card and form a group with the people who had the same person.
You will have 3 minutes to form your groups.
If you have not joined a group by the end of the 3 minutes, you are out.
I will then count to 3 and ask everyone in your group to say the name of the person whose name was on the card.
I will do this for both groups.
If you were not in the correct group, you are out—you need to be honest.
After we have eliminated the people who are out, I will draw 2 more cards and we will continue to play.
Continue to play as long as you would like, or until there are only a few people left, then declare a winning team.
You are assuming that the majority of people in one group will have seen the same name.
If you have a round where you can’t tell which group was which, then just do that round over again.
If many people are not being eliminated in each round, then lower the time allowance to 2 minutes per round, or one minute per round, etc.…
TEACH
Ask: Was it easy or hard to guess who everyone was trying to impersonate in each round?
Allow a few responses from students.
It was interesting to see how you described each other without using words.
I’m going to tell you something today that you might already realize—You’re at the age that people are starting to ask, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
And they expect a real answer.
At your age, you can no longer say you want to be a “butterfly/cheerleader/doctor.”
When you were younger, that was cute—but now, your grandparents and teachers want to hear something more profound that lets them know you don’t plan on laying on a couch in your parent’s basement forever.
Ask: How do you feel when people ask about your plans for the future?
Do you have something to say, or do you just give them a blank stare?
Allow a few responses from students. Share your personal experiences of how you felt during that time in your life—did you know what you wanted to “be”?
Here’s the thing, people are going to ask you questions about your future plans for the rest of your life:
- Are you dating anyone?
- When are you getting married?
- Are you going to have kids? And then, when are you going to have more kids?
- When will you retire from your job?
It never ends!
But, there’s something important you need to remember throughout every stage of life—who you arehas nothing to do with what your career is, who you are married to, or how many kids you have.
Your identity, or how you view who you really are, should be wrapped up in who you are in Christ.
Read Colossians 3:1-3. (NLT)
Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand.
Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God.
Ask: Have you ever known someone who has gone through an “identity crisis?”
That typically means at some point, they took a look at their life and thought, “I have no idea who I am anymore.”
Even at your age, you might already feel like that.
Maybe you’ve gone through some changes in your personal life, your family, at school, or in your friendships that have made you question what you’re all about.
It’s okay!
Everyone works through some form of those feelings in their lifetime.
It’s actually very normal.
That might be why Paul (and possibly Timothy) addresses this topic to the Church in Colossae.
He’s reminding these believers that they have died to this life and now, their real life is hidden with Christ in God.
Ask: So, what do you think this verse means by, “hidden with Christ in God”?
Allow a few responses from students. Share how your own life changed when you made a commitment to Christ.
Our identity, our very own life, is no longer ours, but is found in who Christ is and what He has done—it’s an amazing gift to us.
No longer should we struggle to discover who we are, because our character and whole self is wrapped up in who Jesus is.
That is, unless you want to struggle—and some people choose to do so.
Ask: Why do you think someone would continue to struggle with identity, even after they have given their life to the Lord? How is that possible?
Allow a few responses from students. Share your own personal struggle with allowing God to help you with your identity in Him.
Answer: Because we are human, and throughout our lives we will continually have to make the choice to be who God wants us to be, and not just follow our own path.
The whole world is telling you who you should be.
We hear it on social media, and at times, it can seem to bombard us every time we turn around.
Your friends and loved ones have opinions about what decisions you should make, what career path you should take, and on and on.
And while we need their godly guidance, it really comes down to a choice you will make for your own life.
So, take some of the pressure off of yourself by remembering the only way to figure out who you really are is by understanding who God is and by becoming who He made you to be.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FORGIVENESS
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FORGIVENESS
Bible: Matthew 6:14-15 (NLT)
Bottom Line: We should forgive others because God has forgiven us.
SUPPLIES
- 50 Sheets of copy paper—Draw a large heart in the middle of each sheet of paper
- 2 Buckets of water
- 20 Foam dishwashing sponges cut into halves
GAME PREP
This is an outdoor water game and you will need a fairly large playing space.
Divide students into two teams of equal size.
Then, instruct each team to split into two equal-sized groups.
Have each team choose a captain.
Give each team a bucket of water containing 20 foam sponge halves.
Also, give each team captain 25 sheets of copy paper.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, you are going to do your best to break each other’s hearts.
Now, I know that’s not something we typically encourage, but it’s how you will win our game today.
I need one group from each team to stand at each end of our game space.
Have one group from each team stand with the buckets of sponges at one end of the space.
Each of these groups will form a single file line.
Have the other group stand at the other end of the space with the team captain and the pieces of paper with hearts drawn on them.
All of the those with the team captain will form a line by standing side-by-side.
The team captain will give each of those people a piece of paper to hold in front of them.
When I say, “Go,” one person from each team will throw 10 sponges, one at a time, at the pieces of paper being held by your teammates at the other end.
Your goal is to soak up as much water as you can and hit the pieces of paper so that they eventually rip because of the water.
You cannot just rip your piece of paper; it has to break because of the water.
After you take your turn and throw your sponges, the next person on your team will take their turn while you are picking up the sponges and returning them to your bucket.
If your piece of paper rips, you will trade places with the person that threw the sponge at your paper—even if they didn’t get to finish throwing all of their sponges on their turn—and you will pick up the sponges they had thrown.
The team captain will be responsible for giving their teammates a new piece of paper when a piece rips.
The first team to break 10 of their hearts (or however many you choose) wins!
TEACH
Say: You might not want to, but you really should forgive each other for being so brutal in our game.
It was all in good fun!
Here, however, is an example of someone who was not quite so willing to move on from the pain someone caused in her life.
When Leslie Ray 'Popeye' Charping passed away, his daughter submitted an obituary in the local newspaper that expressed her feelings about her father—and she held nothing back.
Here’s what she wrote:
"At a young age, Leslie quickly became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing, and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to serve in the Navy, but not so much in a brave & patriotic way, but more so as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges.
Leslie's hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to heaven for the beloved family pets, and fishing, which he was less skilled with than the previously mentioned. Leslie's life served no other obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society or serve his community and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides quick-witted sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days.
With Leslie's passing, he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving husband, father, and good friend.
Leslie's passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.”
Leslie’s daughter had a lot to say, but what she didn’t say spoke the loudest—she did not forgive her father for the pain he had caused her, and she wanted to make sure no one else did either.
Forgiveness is often difficult to choose, especially when you have to overcome feelings of disappointment, resentment, or the desire for revenge.
Let’s read what Jesus told His followers and the crowd that was gathered around Him, as part of what we call, “The Sermon on the Mount.”
Read Matthew 6:14-15.
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Once our eyes have been opened to how much God has forgiven us, we no longer have the option to allow bitterness and un-forgiveness to be part of our lives.
If we choose not to forgive someone, we are saying they are less deserving of forgiveness than we are.
Ask: Why is it more difficult to forgive some things more than others? Or some people?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a time when it was difficult to forgive someone in your own life.
Ask: Have you witnessed the long-time results of unforgiveness in your life, or in the lives of those you love?
Allow a few responses from students.
Forgiveness is pretty important in the life of a believer because without it, we cannot have a restored relationship with God.
Unforgiveness will separate us from God.
Here are a couple of reasons why those who desire a relationship with God should forgive others and themselves.
- When you are focused on the hurt and pain of the past, you can’t move into a future that is free of those things.
It’s like carrying a heavy weight around your neck that you can’t remove on your own.
God will forgive us of the things that separate us from Him if we simply ask, allowing us to move forward in life with a clean slate and the heaviness removed.
When you forgive others for the things they have done to cause you pain, you are allowing them to experience that same gift in their own lives.
- Unforgiveness isn’t healthy.
Bitterness can affect your body.
It can actually make you sick, causing ulcers, depression, anxiety, heart problems, and more.
Maybe it’s because our bodies were not created to live with those feelings; it is not part of God’s plan for us.
Unforgiveness will also affect the healthy relationships in our lives.
Feelings of bitterness and resentment can be difficult to turn off and on, so it’s not unimaginable that those who love you would get the brunt of your harsh feelings towards others.
- If we don’t forgive others, God won’t forgive us.
It’s cut and dry, “But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
God loves us so much and He knows we can’t serve Him with a forgiven heart that is holding unforgiveness against someone else.
Unforgiveness clouds our vision from seeing a picture of God’s love because it’s actually the opposite of who God is.
Today, you can begin to take steps towards healing in even the most difficult relationships of your life.
You might not be able to work on forgiving someone on your own—you might need someone to walk through it with you.
Share your feelings with a pastor, parent, or a godly friend.
And then, ask God to help you show to others the same forgiveness you have received from Him.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BETRAYAL
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BETRAYAL
Bible: Psalm 41:9-10; Matthew 26:16, 20
Bottom Line: When you feel betrayed, choose to take your hurt to God, instead of getting revenge.
Supplies:
- Large bag of M & M’s—enough for each student to have 2 pieces of candy
- Small bag of M & M’s—to give as a prize
GAME PREP
Students will play this game individually.
Give each student two M & M’s.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Each of you have been given two M & M’s—don’t eat them, and you won’t want to by the time we have finished this game!
Go ahead and put your M & M’s inside of your hands and make a fist.
You can put one in each hand, or both in one hand—it’s totally up to you.
When I say, “Go,” you will walk around this room, holding your hands in front of you.
You will walk up to someone, decide which hand you think they are holding an M & M in, and say, “Show me your right hand” or “Show me your left hand.”
You only get to ask them to show you one hand.
If that hand is holding an M & M, then they have to give it to you, and they don’t get to challenge you back.
If it is not, then you don’t get anything and that person can challenge you by saying “Show me your ____ hand.”
If you run out of M & M’s, then you’re out of the game.
It will become more challenging with the more M & M’s you get!
The goal is to be the person at the end of the game who has the most M & M’s.
Hopefully, the candy will melt in their hands, making for a fun twist!
Award the bag of M & M’s to the person with the most at the end of the game.
TEACH
Say: Some of you were really good at convincing other people which hand you did or didn’t have your M & M’s in!
I’m sure it’s not because any of you have practiced your skills of betrayal.
Ask: What would you consider to be the ultimate betrayal?
For some people, an example would be if your best friend cheered for your favorite football team’s rival; or, if you broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and one of your friends started dating them.
So, tell me, what does a betrayal feel like to you?
Allow a few responses from students.
Share a story of your own, but keep it light-hearted because this is a pretty heavy subject.
Read Psalm 41:9.
“Even my best friend, the one I trusted completely, the one who shared my food, has turned against me."
This is from a Psalm, a sacred song or poem, written by King David.
In the Book of Psalms, we read stories about David’s greatest triumphs and his personal times of weakness.
David just lays his heart and emotions out there for all of humanity to see—times of great joy, sadness (even depression), love, trust in God, and loss of faith in what God can do.
David experienced it all and shared it with all of us!
So, in this verse, we read that David’s best friend, someone that he has shared his life with, has turned against him, and he’s hurting.
In a moment of complete honesty, in verse 10, David asks God to “Make me well again, so I can pay them back!”
Wow! Most of us have probably felt like that at one time or another, but maybe we haven’t said it out loud.
And I think most of us realize that’s not a plan that God could agree with.
After all, if anyone experienced betrayal and had the opportunity to get revenge, it was Jesus.
He was betrayed by one of His disciples—someone He spent an enormous amount of time with during His final years on earth.
After traveling with Jesus, watching Him perform miracles, and hearing it proclaimed that He was the Messiah, Judas went to the chief priests (who did not believe Jesus was the Messiah) and asked them what they would give him if he handed Jesus over to them.
The priests agreed to give him 30 pieces of silver.
Matthew 26:16 says, “From that time on, Judas began looking for an opportunity to betray Jesus.”
It didn’t just happen, it was methodically planned and executed.
Ask: How would you feel if you knew one of your friends was plotting to betray you?
Allow a few responses from students.
The Bible says that Jesus knew Judas was going to betray Him.
Matthew 26:20 says, “When it was evening, Jesus sat down at the table with the Twelve. While they were eating, he said, “I tell you the truth, one of you will betray me.”
And when Judas asked Jesus if he was the one, Jesus replied, “You have said it.”
When I read this story, I wonder why Judas asked if he was the one who would betray Jesus when he knew it was him!
He knew the plans in his own heart, why did he ask Jesus if he was the one who would betray Him?
We don’t know, but maybe he wondered if Jesus knew.
Maybe he thought that somehow, Jesus didn’t know.
But, Judas’ betrayal led to the death of Jesus.
So, Jesus knew about Judas’ betrayal, did not stop him, and set the ultimate example for us to follow.
In the next few verses, we see Jesus praying and spending time with God.
God can remove our pain and replace it with love and forgiveness; that’s not human nature—it’s something only He can do.
When people you love turn their backs on you, realize that many times it doesn’t have anything to do with you, but rather a personal battle they are fighting within themselves.
Each of us will work through personal struggles at some point in our lives, and sometimes those around us suffer as a result of the situations we are working through.
Knowing this enables you to look at those who hurt you with compassion because they need God’s help as much as you do.
So, when you are betrayed, choose to take your hurt to God, instead of getting revenge.
God will help you, even when you can't see a path to healing, and will teach you how to help others when they feel betrayed.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON ANGER
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON ANGER
Bible: Proverbs 29:11(NLT)
Bottom Line: God walks with us through all of our emotions and in every situation.
Supplies:
- Four 44-ounce cups (the type you can purchase from convenience store drink stations)
- Duct Tape
GAME PREP
Attach 2 cups together at the bottoms by wrapping duct tape around them—you should have 2 sets.
Divide students into two teams of equal size and have each team form a single file line.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, we have a game that might test your patience with yourself and each other.
Put your hands on the shoulders of the person in front of you.
Throughout this game, you cannot take your hands off of their shoulders, no matter what happens.
Give each team a set of the cups that are taped together.
When I say, “Go,” the person at the front of your line will put one end of the cup on their right foot and pass it off to the right foot of the person behind them.
The passing will continue until it reaches the person at the end of the line.
Then, the last person in line will put the cup on their left foot (without taking their hands off of the shoulders of the person in front them) and begin passing the cup back to the front of their line, using their left feet.
The first team to pass the cups back to the front of the line wins!
TEACH
Say: That game might have been a little frustrating for some of you, but you did a great job keeping your feelings under control.
So, today, I have a confession to make—sometimes, I get angry.
Of course, not at any of you.
But at situations that happen in my life.
Like, when another driver cuts me off on the road.
Or someone cuts in front of me in line at Starbucks.
Or when someone eats the last of my (say your favorite food).
It’s difficult not to show when I get angry.
I have to make the choice to let God help me when I feel angry.
Ask: But, did you know the Bible says it’s okay to get angry?
What are some things that make you angry?
Allow a few responses from students.
In the New Testament, we read that even Jesus got angry when people were using the Temple area to cheat, overcharge, and steal from people.
Jesus overturned tables and yelled at people for desecrating God’s house.
Ask: Can someone share a time that you let anger get the best of you and then you had to pay the consequences for your angry actions?
Allow a few responses.
Being angry never turns out well for either side.
People can get hurt, physically and emotionally—which can then lead to spiritual hurt.
Read Proverbs 29:11.
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.
Ask: Name some situations or circumstances when it’s okay to feel angry.
Encourage the students to focus on the situation, not a person or group of people. Examples could be cancer, injustice, pollution, or similar things.
Anger affects people in different ways.
When some people get angry, they might want to punch something or throw something.
Others may want to scream, yell, or stomp their feet.
Other translations of this verse say that fools give full vent to their anger.
That means they just let it all out and unload on anyone and everyone that comes near when they’re angry.
But the last part of that Scripture says that the wise quietly hold it back.
It doesn’t mean the wise don’t get angry, but they are not the ones who will vomit their anger all over anyone in their way.
So, what is the difference between the anger that fools vent and the anger of a wise person?
Let’s look at Jesus.
When Jesus was angry at the “money-changers” in the Temple, He was angry that they were stealing from people.
They were treating the Temple as just another way to scam people out of money.
Similar to those social media scams that say, “Send me $19.95, and I’ll tell you the secret to making millions from the internet.”
Jesus was angry because what they were doing was not right.
When you get angry, are you angry at the person or the situation?
Allow a few responses from students.
A wise person holds their anger back quietly.
It doesn’t mean that they never feel angry, but they don’t show it very much, very often, or hardly ever at all.
Since every human being on the planet gets angry, including you and I, here are a couple of things you can do to help manage your emotions:
- Choose your battles.
Wise people who hold back their anger are able to assess a situation and decide what is worth getting angry about and when they should keep quiet.
There are things that every Christian should get angry about, and do something about if they can—and if God directs them to take certain actions.
Even though people can be extremely passionate about situations and issues, remember that people are made in God’s image and we are called to love everyone—even if we disagree with what they stand for or believe in.
- Don’t respond immediately.
When we face a situation that makes us angry, we naturally want to lash out in the moment.
But, don’t!
Take a breath, walk away, do whatever you need to do to keep from responding negatively in the moment of anger.
Then, once you’ve considered an appropriate, Christ-like response, explain that you are angry at the situation, but not the person.
For those who may get angry quickly, there are tools you can use to help manage your anger—consider working out or running to let off some steam.
You can also talk to a trusted adult or friend who will pray with you when you need help.
Sometimes, even just separating yourself from a situation can make a big difference in how you react.
You will find that many things are just not worth getting, or staying, angry over.
God has given us so many tools in His Word that help us in every situation in life.
His desire is to walk with us through all of our emotions and in every situation.
God is with you, even when you’re angry and you can always turn to Him to help you.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DOUBT
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON DOUBT
Bible: Matthew 14:30-31(NLT)
Bottom Line: When life is hard, allow your faith to take the place that doubt could fill.
SUPPLIES
- Paper lunch bags – 2 per student
- 2 Bananas
- 2 Pencils, 2 sheets of paper
- 2 Rolls of toilet paper
- 2 Tubes of lipstick
- 2 Decks of playing cards
GAME PREP
Divide students into two teams of equal size.
Give each student two paper lunch bags and tell them to place them on their hands.
Choose a “captain” for each team and give them a list of the following tasks.
- Peel and eat a banana.
- Have each person on your team write their name on a piece of paper.
- Form a straight line and unroll a roll of toilet paper by passing from the front of the line to the end and back without letting it break.
- Have three people tie their shoelaces.
- Have one person perfectly apply lipstick.
- Create a “house of cards” that utilizes 15 or more cards and is at least 3 levels of cards high.
Have one leader assigned to watch each team to ensure they have completed each task correctly.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, I have divided you into two teams to perform six tasks that will be pretty challenging.
Your team captain has been given a list of these tasks and they will be responsible for deciding who will complete each one.
Here are a couple of notes:
Everyone must participate in at least one task.
You must complete the tasks in order and you can only begin the next task after you have finished the previous one.
A leader will let you know when you are “signed off” for each task.
The first team to finish all of the tasks, and have a standing house of cards at the end of the game wins!
TEACH
Say: At some point during our game, you probably doubted whether or not you would be able to finish—and forget about winning, you just wanted to get it done!
When you think about the stories we read in the Bible, many times we remember the examples of people with great faith in God.
But the Bible also tells about those who dealt with personal feelings of doubt.
In Matthew 14, we read the story of when Jesus fed over 5,000 people with five loaves of bread and two fish—it was a miracle!
Jesus’ disciples had seen it happen with their very own eyes, which is why I think what happens in the following few verses is so interesting.
The crowds went home after they ate their meal of fish and bread, the disciples went across the lake in a boat, and Jesus went up into the hills to pray.
While the disciples were out in the boat, they encountered a storm.
In the middle of the storm, Jesus walked on the water toward their boat.
He tells them not to be afraid and Peter asks Jesus to prove Himself.
Peter says, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.”
And Jesus tells Peter to come to Him.
But, let’s read what happens in the following verses.
Read Matthew 14:30-31.
But when he saw the strongwind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted.
Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”
Say: Let’s take a minute and imagine that entire scenario.
The disciples are in a storm and they see someone walking across the water.
The Bible says the disciples actually thought Jesus was a ghost.
I mean, what other explanation would they possibly have for what was coming at them in the middle of the water?
But, when they see Jesus, they ask Him to prove it’s really Him.
Who did they think it was?
Next, Peter begins to walk on the water towards Jesus and as he looks around, doubt settles in and he begins to sink.
Jesus doesn’t let Peter drown.
He could have, but He shows Peter grace and saves him.
As Jesus is pulling Peter out of the water, he asks Peter, “Why did you doubt me?”
The Bible doesn’t record Peter’s answer, and maybe it’s because he didn’t have one.
Really, what could he say?
Ask: Think about your own life.... have you ever doubted God?
Maybe you’ve had questions about whether the Bible is true, or if God is even real.
Have you ever doubted whether God was going to help you in a situation?
Allow a few responses from students. Create a safe place where students can be honest about their doubts.
Peter looked into the face of Jesus and doubted who He was and he had an advantage that we don’t have—he was looking at Him!
When we ask God questions and work through our own feelings of doubt, Jesus responds the same way to us as He did to Peter.
What was Jesus’ response?
He saved him.
Doubts are feelings of uncertainty and all of us experience them at one time or another.
But, you can’t allow yourself to live in those feelings.
Peter overcame his doubt when he asked Jesus to save him—and Jesus did.
We need to choose faith over doubt, even in the midst of our questions.
Here are a few things you can do when you feel doubt creeping in:
1. Take a look at what has happened in your life to cause you to doubt God.
3. Talk to people who will encourage you, even in your times of doubt.
Ask your parents, pastors, and friends—who are growing in their relationship with God—how they learned from the doubts in their lives.
Be honest with others and realize you aren’t alone.
You’re going to experience tough times in life, but you have the opportunity to grow and become stronger in your faith, even if that means you have to work through your doubts.
Just remember: When life is hard, allow your faith to take the place that doubt could fill.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FAITH
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FAITH
Bible: Hebrews 11:1; James 1:2-3
Bottom Line: Trials provide an opportunity for your faith to grow.
SUPPLIES
- 2 Poster boards
- Sharpie
- Copy of game questions for leaders (included in download)
- 4 copies of “Remember This” (included in download)
- Prize for the winner
GAME PREP
Students will begin this game in four teams of equal size, but then play the second part of the game as individuals.
Each team will need a captain; give them a copy of “Remember This.”
Cut the poster boards in half to make 4 pieces.
On each half piece of poster board, write one letter: A – B – C – D
Now that each poster board has a letter, have someone (preferably a leader) hold each letter and stand somewhere around the room.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Raise your hand if you enjoy taking tests.
Most of us don’t, especially if we don’t have much time to study—we call that cramming, and some of you are really good at it!
Each of you have been placed on a team with a captain who is holding a copy of “Remember This.”
When I say, “Go,” your team captain will read the paper out loud as many times as they can within 3 minutes.
During this time, you will pay close attention to the story and try to remember as many facts as you can.
You are not allowed to write anything down or type anything into your phone.
At the end of three minutes, I will collect all of the copies of “Remember This” and the second part of our game will begin.
You will now play as individuals answering the questions on your own.
At that point, I will begin to ask questions about what your captain read to you.
Each question will be multiple choice.
Take note of the people who are holding the letters A – B – C – D.
After I read the question, you will stand by the letter of the answer you choose.
I will eliminate one letter at a time.
If the answer is “A,” I will say, “Letter B is not the answer.”
At that point, all of the people at Letter B will be out and everyone else can stay at their letter or consider changing their answer—but you will have to do it quickly.
Then, I will say, “Letter C is not the answer,” and you will either be eliminated or you can take the opportunity to change your answer.
Then, I will eliminate Letter D.
Everyone who was on Letter A will remain in the game and continue to play.
When we have 4 or less players left in the game, you cannot share a letter with anyone else, so you will need to hurry to be the first one to arrive at the correct letter.
We will continue to play until there is only one person left and they will be declared the WINNER!
TEACH
Ask: If I asked you to tell me if you have a lot of faith, what would you say?
Allow a few responses.
You might be wondering if I have a lot of faith.
My response is, faith in what?
The definition of the word, “faith,” means, “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.”
So, do I have a lot of “complete trust in someone or something?”?
It depends on who or what you’re talking about.
I’m not trying to give confusing answers.
I just want us to spend some time digging deep into what faith means to us as followers of Jesus.
You see, the Bible defines spiritual faith as so much more than just faith.
Hebrews 11:1 says, “Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see.”
The biblical definition of faith also includes the fact that we don’t have to see what we believe or who we believe in.
Ask: So, let me ask the question this way—how much faith do you have in God?
What’s the difference in the way you answered the question the first time?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a personal experience of how faith has impacted your life.
Now, let’s read James 1:2-3.
Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.
In these verses, we learn that our faith can be “tested” when trouble comes our way.
Ask: How do trials and tough times “test” your faith?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a personal story of when your faith was tested.
Think about this—If your history teacher gives you a test at school, you will have the opportunity to show how well you’ve been learning and paying attention to what you were taught.
Now, for some people, tests are really hard.
Maybe, when the time comes, they get a brain freeze and can’t remember anything.
Or, they get really confused and can’t recall everything they have learned.
Can any of you relate?
That experience can be really frustrating, but every once in a while, you might have a teacher who understands and will allow you to take a test again to see if you can do better.
Think of Jesus as that teacher.
He will allow us to be tested in areas of our faith, but He isn’t waiting for us to fail.
Jesus gives us the opportunity to demonstrate how we have grown in our faith and He wants to see us succeed, even if we failed the first time.
If we don’t get it right away, He is a loving teacher who will encourage us and let us try again.
Ask: So, how can we prepare for “tests” of faith?
Allow a few responses from students. Share how you personally prepare your heart and mind for tests.
We prepare by studying God’s Word and reading examples of others who have experienced tests and learned from them.
Pray and ask God to give you wisdom and knowledge so that when your faith is tested, you know what to do.
And talk to family, friends, and pastors who can help guide you through tests of faith.
God does not want us to face trials on our own.
He has placed people in our lives who can help us when we need it the most.
Think back to the history test.
How do you feel when you get an A, or even when you just pass the test?
It feels awesome!
Compare that to what the Bible says about troubles that test our faith.
It gives us an “opportunity for great joy.”
When you are faced with tough times and you don’t allow them to destroy your faith, you can say you have passed the test!
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON PRAYER
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON PRAYER
Bible: Psalm 145:18
Bottom Line: When we talk to God, He hears our prayers.
SUPPLIES
- Bucket
- Pieces of paper with words/phrases (listed below)
- Prize for the winning team
GAME PREP
Divide students into two teams of equal size and have them sit down with their team.
Have a leader on hand to keep time for each round and keep score.
Write down each of the following words/phrases on pieces of paper and place in a bucket:
- Artist
- Mom
- Ironing a shirt
- Bicycle
- Washing a dog
- Riding a motorcycle
- Ice skating
- Scuba diving
- Baking cookies
- Flying a kite
- Fishing in a boat
- Mowing a yard
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Today, we have a fun twist on the game of charades.
Call one person from each team to stand with you in front of the students.
In this bucket, I have words and phrases that you will be acting out—just like in charades.
But, we’re going to do a couple of things differently.
First of all, both of you will be acting out the same word or phrase at the same time, so you could actually be helping the other team guess the word.
As both of you are acting it out, both of your teams will be able to guess what the word or phrase is.
Here’s how scoring will go:
If your team guesses correctly in under one minute, you get 5 points.
If you guess correctly in under 2 minutes, you get 3 points.
In you guess correctly in under 3 minutes, you get 2 points.
In 5 minutes or less, you get 1 point.
At the five-minute mark, if no one has guessed correctly, that round is over and no one gets a point.
Here’s a twist: Whatever amount of points your team wins for that round will be deducted from the other team.
If you don’t have points to take away, you will have a negative score.
Oh! And here’s the last twist.
Each of our charades actors will not be facing you.
They will have their backs to the audience!
So, I suggest that both of you use very large motions and your whole body to act out each of these words.
The team with the most points at the end of the game wins!
TEACH
Say: I’m not sure we could have made it more difficult to communicate to each other.
That was really tough!
Especially since you were really trying to get your message through to your team.
Ask: Have you ever had something exciting happen and you are dying to tell your friend, except they won’t text you back or answer their phone?
Allow a few responses from students.
That has happened to me quite a few times and it can be frustrating!
Why?
Because when you want to talk to someone, you expect them to be ready to talk to you in an instant—even if that isn’t a realistic expectation.
But, what we can’t reasonably expect from each other is an actual promise that God gives us.
Read Psalm 145:18.
“The Lord is close to all who call on him, yes, to all who call on him in truth.”
Our minds can’t fully grasp the fact that the Creator of everything is close to us.
Why?
One reason is because we can’t see Him.
Also, people rarely hear the audible voice of God.
And we can’t physically touch God.
So, it’s not difficult to understand why people question if God can hear their prayers.
Ask: What would you say to someone who questions whether or not God hears us when we pray?
Allow a few responses from students. Share a personal story about a time when God answered a specific prayer that you prayed.
Let’s talk about the second part of that verse, “to all who call on him in truth.”
Have you ever done something nice for your siblings or parents and their response is, “What do you want?”
Your family knows you—the real you.
And when they question your motives, that might mean you have been insincere in the past, so they are expecting that behavior again.
In our prayer life, God wants our sincerity and the truth.
He really knows the real you—your motives and desires.
He just wants you to be sincere.
That means when you pray, don’t try to be someone you aren’t, or use fancy words and showy prayers.
Just talk to God because He wants to talk to you.
Ask: Do you think people try to impress God?
How would it benefit someone to be dishonest in their relationship with God?
Allow a few responses from students.
If we can’t come to God in truth, then we most likely aren’t being truthful in other areas of our lives.
Because there is nothing we can hide from God, we are only deceiving ourselves when we are dishonest with God.
Prayer is an opportunity for us to become the best version of ourselves as we become more like God, and that begins with being authentic when we talk to God.
You see, the act of praying is as simple as just talking to God.
But what it does in us, and how it builds our relationship with God, is deep and has profound results in our lives.
We can develop a closeness with God as we spend time with Him in prayer.
We gain confidence in our faith knowing that God hears and answers us.
So, today, I want to encourage you to remember, when we talk to God, He hears our prayers.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FRIENDSHIP
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON FRIENDSHIP
Bible: Galatians 6:2-3; Matthew 22:37-40
Bottom Line: True friends share joy and pain.
SUPPLIES
- 2 Rolls of paper towels
- 2 Rolls of toilet paper
- 2 Pencils
- 2 Paper airplanes
- 2 Cups—any size
- 2 Plastic forks
- 2 Books
- 2 Styrofoam plates
- 2, 2-liter drinks
- 2 Plastic Bags
GAME PREP
Divide students into two teams of equal size and instruct them to form single file lines.
Give each team a plastic bag containing the following items:
- Roll of paper towels
- Roll of toilet paper
- Pencil
- Paper airplane
- Cup
- Plastic fork
- Book
- Styrofoam plate
- A 2-liter drink
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Say: Our game is not about how strong you are, but how well you can balance things.
The first person in your line will be given a plastic bag full of items.
They will take out the items and balance them in their hands/arms.
They can have assistance only from the person standing in line behind them.
When the first person on each team has successfully balanced all the items, the game will begin.
The first person will pass the balanced items to the person in line behind them.
If any items are dropped, then the person that dropped them will place all of the items on the floor and go to the back of their team’s line.
The next person in line will pick up the items, with assistance from the person in line behind them, balance the items, and pass them to the person behind them.
The game will continue until all of the items make it to the last person in line, who will then take all the items to the front of the line.
If they drop any items while walking to the front of the line, they will have to go to the back of the line and try again.
When they make it to the front of the line, they will open the 2-liter drink and fill the cup they were carrying to the top and drink it.
The first team to successfully pass the items, run to the front, pour the drink and drink it, WINS!
TEACH
Say: That game was awesome!
You were great at balancing all of the ridiculous things we gave you to carry.
Imagine how much more difficult that game would have been if we would not have allowed the person behind you to help you out.
We really need each other!
Here’s a random question.
Did you know that a horse can pull about 3 times it’s weight?
Anyone want to guess how much that is?
It’s about 2,500 pounds.
Horses are pretty strong—at least stronger than most of us.
But, listen to this.
In 1924, a pair of Shire draft horses pulled 50 tons—that’s 100,000 pounds or 20,000 pounds morethan the weight of a semi-truck.
That’s absolutely incredible!
And it’s a great example of what we’re talking about today—sharing the load each of us carries.
Read Galatians 6:2 (NLT).
“Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.”
God desires us to live in community with each other, to have people that we share life with.
It’s His plan.
If you live life all by yourself, you can’t carry someone else’s burdens.
So, let’s agree we need friends in our lives.
And having friends is about more than what you can get out of a friendship—it’s really about what you can give.
Sure, friends are great to hang out with, talk, laugh, and cry with, but it’s more than that.
The verse we just read says that when we care for each other, we “obey the law of Christ.”
What is the law of Christ?
Allow a few responses from students.
The law of Christ is found in Matthew.
Read Matthew 22:37-40 (NLT).
Jesus replied, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”
Jesus actually said it’s equally important to love each other as much as you love God.
That’s pretty important!
So, what does it mean to share each other’s burdens?
Allow a few responses from students.
True friends understand that you support each other through joy and trials.
But, sharing someone’s burden isn’t easy—it takes time, effort, and sacrifice.
That’s why after Paul tells us to share each other’s burden, he follows up with this…
Read Galatians 6:3.
If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.
I want to share an example of extreme selflessness.
In 2009, Dave Hartstock, a skydiving instructor, was in the middle of a 13,0000-feet-high tandem jump when he realized that neither of his two parachutes would open all the way.
He had jumped out of the plane with Shirley, a grandmother and first-time skydiver, and found himself having to make a really quick and hard decision.
Although his brain was racing and he was panicking, at the last minute, he was able to rotate his body so that he could cushion Shirley’s fall when they hit the ground.
Dave’s quick thinking saved Shirley’s life, but he suffered lifelong consequences of his selfless action.
Shirley made a speedy recovery because of Dave’s sacrifice.
But, Dave is now permanently paralyzed from the neck down and requires help to do everything in life.
When asked if he would still do the same thing after knowing what would happen to him, he said, “Absolutely. Better me than her.”
Dave made that sacrifice, essentially, for a stranger.
Most of us will never have to make that kind of choice for even our closest friends.
What types of burdens do our friends carry that we could share with them?
Allow a few responses from students.
Here are a few reasons why sharing our burdens with each other is important:
1. Sharing our burdens reminds us of the example Jesus set for us as He lived His life on earth.
Jesus traveled from place to place responding to the needs of the people—He was empathetic and caring.
He even took on the sins of the entire world when He died on the cross—that is the ultimate example of sharing each other’s burdens.
2. Sharing our burdens reminds us to rely on God’s strength and not our own.
Occasionally, in the New Testament, we read that Jesus went away to spend time in prayer with God.
When we share other’s burdens, it’s important to rely on God’s wisdom and strength so we can point our friends to Him and avoid feeling overwhelmed.
3. Sharing our burdens reminds us to look beyond ourselves and care for others.
It’s easy to become self-absorbed and pre-occupied with our own problems—that’s the norm in our culture.
When we focus on caring about the needs of others, we become less selfish and sometimes our own troubles don’t seem as bad.
I want to challenge you to take a step in your friendships toward sharing each other’s burdens.
And, remember that true friends share joy and pain.
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YOUTH GROUP GAME ON GOD'S GUIDANCE
Written by Mike Sheley
Bible: Proverbs 16:9; Psalm 119:105
Bottom Line: God guides us in our everyday life, one step at a time, as we follow Him.
SUPPLIES
- Three “Connect 4” Game Sets
- Three extra sets of checkers that are a different color from the two colors in the Connect 4 sets
- Most checkers come in black and red
- Some new game sets for Connect 4 include a yellow set
- If you need a different color for the third set, you can search Amazon, collect old checkers, or purchase some new ones and use paint to make them whatever color you want
- One, 6 or 8-foot Table
- Six Chairs
- Background Music
- For the lesson portion, you will need pre-printed copies of Proverbs 16:9 and Psalm 119:105.
GAME PREP
Set up a 6 or 8-foot table with three “Connect 4” stands sitting side-by-side.
On each long side of the table, place three chairs - each facing one of the stands.
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Divide your group into three teams and have them line-up in three single-file lines.
Let each group know which color checker represents their team.
For this game, the first two people in each line will have a seat at the table.
They cannot sit side-by-side or across from someone on the same team.
The purpose of the game is to connect as many checkers as they can, in a row horizontally, vertically, or diagonally of their color.
Defensively, their goal is to block as many connections from the other two teams as possible.
Players can only use checkers of the color assigned to their team.
When the music starts, they will take turns putting in one checker at a time.
You can only play one checker at a time.
You have to wait for your opponent to drop in a checker before you can add another one.
This all sounds pretty familiar, but, of course, we are spicing things up a bit.
When the music stops, everyone must move one seat to the right.
If you are in the farthest seat on the right, you will go to the end of your team’s line and a new person from your team will take the empty seat on the far left.
When the music begins, play resumes.
At the end of the game, the team that has the most connections of four or more checkers of their color, in a row, will win.
If there is a tie, the one with the longest connection(s) in the tie will be the champion.
Say: Ready? Go!
Have someone play upbeat music in the background.
Randomly stop the music at intervals of 10-30 seconds.
At the end of the game, congratulate your champion!
Remember to look at all three boards.
Whichever color has the most connections of four or more in a row will be your winner.
If there is a tie, then see which one has the longest connection in a row.
TEACH
Say: Many of you have probably played Connect 4 before.
But, I doubt any of you have played it like that!
The easiest round of that game was when you were the first one to play and you could drop your checker anywhere.
A new beginning feels good - the beginning of the year, and the beginning of a new school year are always filled with hope because you have a fresh start.
But, today, we're going to take this opportunity to check-in and see if the steps you are taking in your everyday life lead you towards God’s best for your life.
Hand out the pre-printed copies of Proverbs 16:9 and Psalm 119:105 to the students and ask for a volunteer to read each of the verses when they are to be read during the lesson.
Read Proverbs 16:9.
If I was to summarize this verse I would say, "We can make all the plans we want, but God shows us each step along the way."
So, that makes me wonder: If I want to follow God’s lead in my life, how do I know which steps he wants me to take?
Allow a few responses from students.
Let's think about the game for a minute.
It would have been awesome if before the game started, I had given you a picture of how the completed stand full of checkers was going to look and you could just drop in your checkers where they needed to go.
And what if I had even shown you where to drop the checkers for each individual round... that would have been more like me helping you one step at a time.
Check out this next verse where we find out exactly how God does this for us.
Have a student read the verse.
Read Psalm 119:105.
The author of this Psalm, or song, in the Bible says that “God’s Word,” or the Bible, guides us.
In this passage, the “lamp” or “light,” is like a modern-day flashlight.
He emphasizes this by saying the same thing a little differently – It’s a “lamp to guide my feet” and it’s a “light for my path.”
Some of us wish God gave us a big spotlight.
Maybe you've started thinking about what you will do someday after you graduate high school.
It would be amazing if God gave us specifics about our future - like telling us what career we should choose, who we should marry, where we should live, etc.
But, here's what God does... He shows you how to live your everyday life, one day at a time.
And as you follow Him every step of the way, He leads you.
Following God’s guidance and making wise choices in our everyday lives is like making connections in the game we played - getting our checkers lined up in a row.
How do you get a long streak of connecting what God wants you to do multiple days in a row?
You spend time in the Bible so that you will be able to see how God is guiding you, one step at a time.
So, remember - God shows us in the Bible how to live our lives one day at a time so that no matter what our big plans are, we’ll live in such a way that we honor God and help others get to know Him.
Let’s commit to spending more time reading the Bible so we can live more days the way God wants us to.
Close in prayer.
Written by Mike Sheley. Mike is the Middle School Pastor at Mount Pleasant Christian Church in Greenwood, Indiana, where he oversees their ministries for 5th-8th graders. He’s been in full-time youth ministry over 15 years with most of that time focused on preteens and junior highers.
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON MAKING GOOD CHOICES
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON MAKING GOOD CHOICES
Written by Rob Quinn
Bible: Philippians 4:8; 1 Timothy 4:12
Bottom Line: When we fix our thoughts on things that honor God, our choices and decisions will lead to life.
SUPPLIES
- Blindfold
- A Hammer (a giant inflatable hammer works best)
- Tape
- Sheets of Paper and a Marker
- The song "Hammer Time"
- 10 Second Audible Countdown
- Large Space to play the game
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Count the number of students who will be playing the game.
Next, on each sheet of paper, write a number, beginning with "1."
On the next sheet of paper, write "2."
Continue, writing numbers on sheets of paper, until the numbers add up to at least the amount of students that are playing the game.
For example, if you have 10 students, then you will have sheets of paper that say, "1," "2," "3,"and "4" = 10.
Use tape to attach the sheets of paper and mark various areas around the room as “safe zones.”
Remember: The numbers on each safe zone show how many students can be in that area at a time.
Make sure there is enough space available for each student to have a spot.
These zones can be as big, small, and numerous as you would like.
Choose one player to be the Hammer:
Blindfold the student and place them in the center of the room with a hammer in hand.
On GO, the remaining students will move around the room trying to decide which “safe zone” they want to choose.
They can only choose an area that is not full.
Play “Hammer Time” as they are moving around.
Give students a 10-second countdown when time is almost up.
At the end of the countdown, the Hammer will point the giant hammer toward any direction they want.
The area closest to where they are pointing is then “hammered” out of the game and must sit down outside the playing area.
Leaders will decide which area is the closest.
Also, anyone that didn’t choose a corner before the hammer was dropped is automatically out of the game.
Play until only one person is left in the playing area and that person then becomes the Hammer for the next round.
Play as many rounds as you want.
TEACH
It was fun to watch how each of you chose differently and at different times throughout that game.
All of you were faced with the same situation, but made different choices because of different reasons.
Let me ask a few questions:
Allow a few responses for each question.
- How many were of out of the game because you didn’t choose an area in time?
- How many felt you should not have gotten out because the hammer was closer to another area?
- How many chose areas because friends were in that area?
- Who decided to go to smaller less populated areas?
- Did anyone get left out of an area because it was filled up?
- How did that make you feel?
- How do you decide what choices to make in life?
- Who makes decisions based on what others on doing? WHY?
In this world, it can feel overwhelming when every choice we make has tremendous outcomes and huge consequences.
Decisions that determine things like:
- Will people like people like me or not like me?
- Will I may be made fun of?
- Will I be bullied?… and on and on.
So, what do we use to help us make decisions and to make good choices?
What reasoning do we use, or better yet, should we use?
Let’s read Proverbs 14:12.
“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.”
Do you think this sounds extreme?
I mean... how many choices do you face each day that could lead to death?
If we look through God’s eyes, the correct answer is: many.
When we make decisions that are based on what others think it can lead us to do things that are hurtful to others, ourselves, and our relationship with God.
So, how can we take this information and start making better choices?
Read Philippians 4:8.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
When we fix our thoughts on things that honor God, our choices and decisions will lead to life.
But first, understand that you won’t always make the right choices.
That doesn’t give us an excuse not to try.
It gives us the opportunity to experience the love and grace that God extends to us because He knows what’s in our hearts.
When we fail, God shows us grace.
And as we experience His grace, we grow in our relationship with God and find that it’s easier to make choices that bring God glory.
As a student, believe it or not, you’re learning new things every day... and that doesn’t stop when you become an adult.
Some of you are young believers, and all of this seems new, but whether this is new to you or you’ve followed God your entire life, He loves you the same.
Here’s what 1 Timothy 4:12 says:
Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.
God knows the influence you can have as youth in this world.
You can make the choice to go out and use that influence for Him.
Today, you can decide to make decisions based on His love and His glory.
Written by Rob Quinn. Rob has over 10 years of experience in preteen ministry. He is married to an amazing woman Jodi, who just so happens to be the Children’s Ministry Director at his church. They have one beautiful daughter Sydni, and an 8-pound attack dog named Lilly.
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BEING UNIQUE
YOUTH GROUP GAME ON BEING UNIQUE
Bible: Genesis 1:27; Romans 12:2
Bottom Line: God uniquely created each of us, so we don’t need to be like anyone else.
SUPPLIES
- Stop watch
- Multiple ink pads
- White index cards - two per student
- Tape
- Sticky notes - one per student
- Baby wipes
- Bag of candy for winning team
HOW TO PLAY THE GAME
Divide your group into two equal teams with at least 8 -10 people per team.
For smaller groups, do this as individuals and the “best time” wins.
Before the game, have each student stamp their thumbprint onto two cards.
Put a number on one of the cards and the same number on a sticky note with their name.
Tape the thumbprint card without the number to the student.
Place the sticky note with the number and name to their back so no one can see it.
Have leaders stand behind the students with the sticky notes on their backs.
Now lay the remaining cards out across the room with the fingerprint side facing up – separate each team’s cards.
Teams will play one at a time.
Start the clock and send one player to the pile to grab one fingerprint card.
They will try to match the card to one of the other team’s players, without looking at the sticky note on the player’s back.
Once students choose a player, the leader will either let them know they are correct or incorrect by checking to see if the numbers match.
- If they are correct: Both students sit down and another person from the team takes their turn.
- If they are incorrect: Player will return the card to the pile, sit down, and another teammate will take a turn
This continues until everyone has been matched and is sitting down.
The clock stops as soon as the last person sits down.
The team with the quickest time wins.
TEACH
Say: Congrats to the winning team!
You all did a fantastic job and deserve a prize.
Remember to pass out prizes for the game after the lesson is over.
But first, let me ask you a few questions about the game:
- What was the hardest part of the game?
- Was there a time you thought all of the cards looked alike?
- Did the fingerprints look mostly the same, or were they really different?
- How does it make you feel that no one in this room has the same fingerprints as you?
- Have you ever thought about how different we are from each other?
- Why do we try so hard to be like each other?
- Why are we so different from each other?
Well, that final question is the one we are about to answer.
God, who created the heavens, the stars, the world, light and darkness, all animals and plants – He created you!
Many of you have probably heard that a thousand times, but it matters!
I realize that some of you just want to fit in.
Maybe all you want to do is blend in and not stand out in the crowd.
Or just be anyone else except who you are.
But, here’s what God has to say...
Read Genesis 1:27.
So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.
God created you, and what do we know about what God creates?
Wait for a few answers.
Everything God creates is perfect - because He is perfect.
Now let’s read Romans 12:2.
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
God uniquely created each of us, so we don’t need to be like anyone else.
In fact, He doesn’t want us to be like everyone else.
God, especially doesn’t want us to be what world tells us to be.
As we allow God to transform us into who He wants us to be, we will see that the things that makes us different are the same things God can use to draw others to Him.
This is what God wants for you – it’s why He created you.
Different and perfect just as He wants you to be.
Close in Prayer.
Written by Rob Quinn. Rob has over 10 years of experience in preteen ministry. He is married to an amazing woman Jodi, who just so happens to be the Children’s Ministry Director at his church. They have one beautiful daughter Sydni, and an 8-pound attack dog named Lilly.